Knowing the Difference between Part-Time and Full-Time Lovers

The people around you have everything to do with the decisions you make; that’s why it’s important to know the difference between temps and lifetime if you are to succeed in life.  Falling in and be loved is one of the most exciting experiences I have had the privilege to enjoy. But I can’t say the same for falling out of it. Many of us have tasted the painful sting of a breakup/s and to most of us because we failed to understand love or differentiate between part-timers and full-timers, well I won’t spare you the heartache in your next venture.   Now, very many people have come out to define what love is including what I once wrote about love languages, how to choose life a partner and questions to ask before you say “I do.” In short, I like best 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 definition of love; “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hope, and always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”   As you can see, its hard work to actually love unlike the Hollywood reductions of love to just a feeling, so love is a relationship!! Ignorance of this onetime left me hurt just I also did to others but doesn’t have to be like that. In life, there are three kinds of people that will come into your life, those who want to hurt you, just have fun and those who want to grow…

Coming Back from a Heart Attack (A Kind Everybody Faces)

“Am pressed beyond measure and my heart cannot take it anymore. I exposed it to more than it could handle, now it is under attack and I do not know what to do. My heart is operating in numbness, am too numb to miss you and too bruised to risk opening up. My heart is under attack, attacked by those I loved but made me wait too long until I self-destructed. Attacked by those I poured out my heart to only to have them mock or take me for granted, attacked by the too soon departure of those who yielded into death, attacked by the pressures raised by my passions at work, in my dreams and life its self. It is attacked the guilt of now fully letting in, oh… it hurts.” Am sure many of you can relate with my outcry, that was a place I was in not so long ago but thank God, am free though am away many are stack there so I will share with you this blog. I recently shared about “life pressures” in my blog hitting something about our emotional health as some may call it a condition of the heart or soul. By nature I would like to think that am a soft-hearted person simply because of my kind of heart; How do you know you have a big heart? Ask yourself these questions; Do you have a tendency to put others needs ahead of your own? Self-sacrificial, take care of other people’s needs and neglecting yours? Do you always see good where others are critical? It can be the meanest person in the world but you see well in them. Are you an intense person, in that whatever you feel, you feel it intensively? Feel hard and love hard? Do you…

The Secret Warfare of Being Under Pressure Is Not Only One’s to Fight

Everybody expects me to get married, get a job, build a house, buy a car and have a healthy bank account not taking into account the hard work and sacrifices required. Nor the search or the pressures that come with acceptance or rejections. Right from an early age, I have always managed pressure well as a leader. However, I came to learn that with more power is more pressure. At 21 years, I was entrusted with the responsibility of running an entire university student government. One year down the road at 22 years, I lost my dad, the head of our family and breadwinner; culturally as the first-born son, I inherited my late father’s full responsibilities and role leaving me no time to grieve my loss of the only biological parent I had alive.  No one actually cared to find out how I truly was doing but rather praised me based on their assumption that I was strong, this birthed pressure in me. I was under pressure which later became anger turned inside, raging, moaning… having violence inside me. We live in a society where people ask, “How are you? Or how we are doing?” just as a greeting with no real intention of finding out how we are and they move on. Today pressure mounts more difficulty for Christians or religious fox; we tend to be more obligated to be okay. We feel like somehow we have done God a disservice to say we are not okay. We are expected to live a holy life according to human standards forgetting God’s own standards; that creates pressure. With every blessing, we have or get, comes a burden. The more blessed you are the more burdens, “…to whom much is give, much is required…” Of cause, not everyone will be happy…

Open Letter to All My People, My 27th Year Birthday Message for You

From the high lands of Mountain Elgon to the flat lands, came Dad to the city from a humble background. We never had much but he offered us his rich spirit. I never chanced to meet my mom, but I know she was a goddess because she gave birth to me on the 7th November 1990 early morning.  As a kid, it never crossed my mind that I had to hustle just to make it through. Simply because my dad had my back; but the world was not up for grabs, especially when the pressures kicked in. Facing life’s giants at an early stage of my life, mountains of obstacles leaving me to think I was under attack. Seeking an anchor for my soul, a believer in my dreams, a friend for my strength, a confidant for my fears and strong hold for the unknown; trial and error became my new normal. Experience became my toughest teacher, examiner and discipliner. But I have come out stronger, pruned even though my wounds are yet to fully heal. Today as life goes on, I have come to learn more and more about responsibility. There are a lot of mistakes I have made. And I understand that there is a big problem, am not too blind not to see the pain kept in your heart.  I have hurt and disappointed many along the years. But with humility, to everyone I hurt along the way; emotionally, financially, socially, with power, neglect or in any way, Am Sorry. For all the things I put you through, all the pain I caused you, am truly sorry. Am sorry for the things I did not say or do. The help I did not give. The support I did not offer and much more. Being a young man…

Favored By Default

Most of us if not all aspire for excellence seeking to be the best of our selves maybe for ourselves, someone, others or most importantly God so we can earn something from them, maybe love, or anything that fits. Because of this attitude, when we error we host a guilty party in our selves leading us into disappointment or some sort of depression in form of regrets and much more. As a christian, I have tried to live by God’s standards for long (The Commandments & Law) so I may earn His love.  Along the way, I ended up living a life that’s constantly imperfect to His eyes according to my view hence my regret! This continued until I discovered I was highly loved and Favored regardless of my imperfections. Lets put our focus for today on our relationship with God. To be clear, am not saying the law has no importance in our lives (NO). What am simply saying is that God loves us by default and we don’t have to earn it by works or in anyway. The meaning of a Blessing is simply Permission into doing or achieving something (release) Some people are blessed by their parents into marriage, others are blessed by their elders into business and in tern they actually see prosperity. This is because the power of positive word into another’s life is life giving, be aware… the same applies for negative word. Bringing you back, if the Lord said He has Highly Blessed and Favored You, it means it’s not based any condition or circumstance but rather Your Blessing is Your default position. Knowing that alone generates faith in you and it in turn enables you reach out to God just as He wants it (In confidence that He Has already Answered you).…

7 Steps On How To Turn Your Life Around 

There came a point in life were you seem not to have control over where your life is leading. You know you are headed the wrong direction but still blindly follow along because maybe you gave up on your self & have no idea how to turn things around. Yet you deeply desire to turn things around. My early life has been a maze, I did the same things every time & expected different results. As a result, I was poor, insignificant in society, disappointed my parents, my relationships sucked, even my own siblings disassociated with me, the list goes on. I was a person of no value, all I knew well how to do was talk rubbish, start trouble, never completed tasks, you name it. In short, I failed at everything I did. At the age of 17 years, I knew I had to get my name back from all the negativity & be restored to honor. I decided to turn my life around hence chose to first seek knowledge & wisdom. I discovered, “Men fall because of having a broken focus.” & also learnt that, “Men choose their habits & their habits choose their future.” There, I knew exactly what to start working on. Get focused & set habits that will lead me towards my purpose in life as you will see;    1. Know your self & what your going after. Set specific target. Like any of you, I thought I knew my self until after several psychological personality tests & consultations from my mentors & people around me. I discovered my weakness & potential. My talents & gifts paved a way for me to become a servant leader so I chose to focus on that from the word go. I built habits like, partiality, prudence, listening,…

The Mistakes Young People Must Not Make Before Marriage

Marry now with the little you have. Don’t wait to be a millionaire, Have kids early so they grow along with you. Grow with your spouse and kids and succeed with them. Start your life now as you might still not succeed at your target age. Many people have waited to make so much money before they get married, years later money has refused to come, still no wife, no kids. When you’ve found true love don’t hesitate waiting for money, it may mean waiting till eternity.  So many young guys are pretending not to be financially buoyant enough to marry but are already living couples life, so many girls are even wasting away on our streets as sex toys for men old enough to be their grandfather still they tell you they are not matured enough for marriage.  When you marry early, you get preoccupied with your spouse and not end up as “pubic utility ” for all and sundry, good enough your kids grow along with you. Stop looking for a “ready made” spouse, work your spouse’s success with him/her grow your wealth together it gives you a sense of belonging and you’ll have a say.   If you have means, please marry early, don’t wait till you see your friends’ kids graduating while you still have yours in kindergarten classes, don’t wait to be 60 years and you still have kids in elementary school, don’t have kids young enough to be your grandchildren. Contentment comes not from much wealth but fewer wants, don’t wait to buy Range Rover Sport or build Mansions before you start you matrimony, ask your parents where and how they started, you’ll see that you’re even better off.  Trust me, it isn’t money that brings happiness but contentment, be happy with the little…

How to Identify and Write Down Your Vision For A Simplified Lifestyle of Success.

The key to achieving your VISION is DISCIPLINE. Discipline is defined as self imposed standards for the sake of a higher goal. Self discipline doesn’t mean there are no other forms of discipline. There is external discipline in form of laws, enforcement and much more. An effective leader doesn’t need much discipline from the outside, they self-impose discipline on themselves and that’s what we call it self discipline. Hence the key to success in your life, is finding a vision that imposes discipline on your self because vision is the source of discipline. Discipline is the root of leadership, the very nature that attracts people to you. Because people admire discipline in other people that’s why we go and even pay to see athletes perform, celebrate them even e.g. Inzukuru, Kiprotich, Bolt not forgetting our very own Man-U football stars. It’s because of the discipline they put themselves through individually! Same is with leaders and you if you apply this principle to your self! People will begin to attract themselves to you. Your very life of discipline creates trust! People will start believing what you say. That’s why most athletes and professionals are used to advertise and market products. They are selling the discipline not the fame of that person or product. Disciplined people live very narrow lives, vision simplifies everything. It controls all your choices cause you know where exactly you are going and the roads to take you there. No trials and errors, because you know what you shouldn’t do! Vision defines your what to do in life! It gives you your permanent address in life, your destination hence your destiny which dictates your decisions, making life simple. Without a vision, life becomes complicated, it’s tough to say no! With vision, it’s easy to say no, you were…

Why Everybody Should Fast At Least Four Times A Year basing on Health and Spirituality!

The first thing that pops in people’s heads when they hear the word, “FAST” is denial of ‘FOOD’ & ‘PRAYER’. Well, they are wrong and yet at the same time partly right. I would like to think fasting is simply, “Disciplining of the body subjecting it to your control against all that has controlled it.” Ironically speaking, fasting is the art of denying your body and self things that are pleasing to it or you. For example, food, drugs (ps. Alcohol is a drug too.), movies, friendships, fan and many more pleasurable things in our lives. We all have things we crave to do or have, in turn… the urge to have them creates a patten of receiving, having, using…. the cycle goes on. I call it habit. Habits are controling, some are good, others are bad. Sadly, the bad ones always tend to be huge downsides in our lives. Hence leaving us vulnerable and most likely out of control. If we don’t check our habits, desires and way of life, we put our lives in a danger of having an addiction. We never want our lives to depend on a particular  substance, thing or activity. We want to be free!! We want to be in control. And thats why fasting is important! With reference to my personal life, am a great personality and pleasurable person to be around. However, I was so used to the idea of being taken as a good person that I completely forgot to watch out for those cropping and growing interests in particular substances like food and sugars, things such as electronics, technology, money… and activities such as romance, sex, friendship & relationship making and so much more. Not to say that this things are bad, however… the love of such things blinds you to their…

34 Godly Principles of Starting Your Journey to a Successful Wealth Responsible Wellbeing #Business

If not every, then it’s most young people’s dream to become rich! “there, I said it… people fear doing that today.” We have created all sorts of moral citations especially as God fearing people, of how we need to suffer, how being wealthy is some sort of sin in away and where we cant explain it we say it’s blessing. “Hahaha…oh how we suffer in ignorance.” Not just you but me too here, I once lived in that kind of confusion. Well, since Christ came to Give us life, so we may live in abundance, I took it upon my self to Ask for guidance, seek wisdom and understand what principles can get me started. Now there are other things you have to consider, but for now I came across these principles and they have jump-started me off to my journey and I think it’s only wise for me to share them with you as well. 1) Do you know the first thing about the sky’s constellations & how they affect things on earth? ~Job 38:33 2) There is no new knowledge on Earth. Everything comes from the Bible. 3) If a murderer applies the law of sowing and reaping, it will work for him/her. 4) In terms of natural laws, the principal law is the law of gravity. 5) To overcome the law of gravity, the law of aerodynamics is put in motion. 6) You need money to advance the gospel. Our major business is the great commission. 7) Ephesians 4: 28. The purpose of work isn’t to make you rich 8) A worker gives. A business owner sows. There is a very big difference. 9) Man’s original habitat is Paradise. Poverty is a disease that can’t be cured by work. 10) Many in the body of Christ are…

Five Actual Practical Principles to Getting Your Life Promotion with God’s Full Support!

A wise man once said, “Men choose their habits, and their habits decide their future.” As simple as this statement sounds, well I guarantee you it contains the truth just as the one does; “Humble your self and you will be lifted.” Now this is a power principle that anyone to wants responsible success has to engrave on his or her hearts. Am sure by now you must know victories don’t come by chance… it takes a lot of had work and attention to details most ignored. My dream has always been aligned to leadership of the highest level and I can say boldly that I am making progress. From when I was a child, I was leader from all levels to where I am now at age of 25yrs; I can now stand and say, “I have made it.” But I still got more to add on as years pass by, pushing limits every-time at all costs… this is because; I keep down to earth. I know my mission, ‘I attain more power to do more good to people and work towards my goals.” However, it hasn’t been all a clean and straight road, I have made major mistakes in my life, which I like calling landmines. Hence, the purpose of this blog is to share with you 5 principles that will help you or guide you towards achieving true success and possibly avoid stepping in the same landmines I did:   1-Understand Your Mission, Not Position. Let your focus not be on loose site of the mission but rather discovering it. Position means nothing if you don’t understand your mission, but if you understand your mission; your position will not be changed to success. The first time I failed an election was when I planed to win the…

When we fall Short, We bury what we can’t fix.

All of you on Instagram know those Before & after pictures, for the ladies one picture before a beauty make over and another after… they really show a huge distinction. Well life is a little similar to that, today I want to talk about our to sides and versions of persons living within us, the weak and the strong but still in the same body.   I keep telling my self, “We are here, the strong & the weak (ME) living in the same body!” Am not an upright man pay say that is living up to society fittings. I am living in the twilight zone between two names, Emmanuel, which means, “God with us.” and Wabwire, which means, “Born at night.” Religion will tell you, if you fast enough, you kill the other side, but I keep telling my self, “We are still here! Emmanuel and Wabwire” And some times we get into a fight living in the same body, Sometimes Wabwire wants to quit and Emmanuel wants to stay. Sometimes Emmanuel wants to live holy and Wabwire wants to go to a strip-club. Emmanuel wants to read the bible, and Wabwire wants to watch porn and we are both living in the same body. Your are supposed to be a Christian, Emmanuel is but I still have to live with Wabwire. Sometimes I even wonder why God still reaches out and calls me, but all I know is, that’s his nature! He wants to use the weak, make them strong and pride in them.   Growing up was amazing especially when it meant living with a great Dad as mine even when I had never known my biological mom. In my late teens he was there to take me through the hard parts of life and my God…

22 Questions To Ask Before Saying “I Do”

The Bible says that, “a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22. But we must understand that the finding is a process and it is a serious task. This process involves seeking and elimination. It takes time and energy. Ignorance of what this process involves is what makes many singles sad and discouraged or rush into mis-matched marriages. The truth is, finding just any type of life partner is easy; you can pick anyone off the street and go to the altar with her/him. But the heart-breaks and rejections from failed relationships are not easy at all. If you must find that one who would do you good, that one who is tailor-made by God to fit you, then you must invest time, even if it means waiting for some time. After all, the Bible says, “a virtuous woman, who can find?” Proverbs 31:10. This indicates that finding a good person, whether a man or woman does not come easy – you have to search diligently for them. Experiencing a long delay before marriage is not a bed of roses, neither is it easy to keep waiting when all your peers, friends and younger siblings are all getting married. I sincerely do sympathize with my fellow peers going through all of this, but it is better to suffer some pains now than be sorry in marriage. You need to be patient and never hurry. Based on my observations and experience in my parents’ marriage alongside others, I can safely say that ten broken relationships are far better than one divorce. You’ve got to take time and get it right so that you will not suffer later. There are only two kinds of pain: the pain of regret and the pain…

How to Choose a Life Partner 

Choosing a life partner is the biggest decision you’ll make outside of choosing to accept Jesus Christ as Savior.I’ve met with scores of couples for premarital counseling through the years. And one of the first points I try to get across to them is that “desire” does not equal love. Desire may be illustrated by a young person who tells you they can’t live without you, that they’re miserable, and that life seems colorless and empty when you’re not around. That may be a form of love, but it’s not the sort of love that will hold a marriage together through the years. While they may feel they “need” you today, it’s possible that five months from now you’ll no longer meet their “need,” and they’ll find that they “need” someone else. What I tell these young couples is that love is based on commitment, and that everything you do is to fulfill, satisfy, and serve the one you love. Real love doesn’t enter a relationship with an expectation to just receive. It enters a relationship to give and give and give. Let me illustrate how deceptive the world’s definition of “love” can be. Picture a young couple who has been dating for a few weeks. It isn’t long before this young man tells his girlfriend how much he loves her and how difficult it is to keep his hands off her. Pressing her to engage in a physical relationship, he explains that he “loves her so much” he can no longer restrain himself, he want to defile her through fornication (which many people refer to as premarital sex). The truth is, any young woman who hears that line should realize that the young man doesn’t love her too much… he loves her too little. Actually, he’s not thinking about…