Freedom to Love Unconditionally is a Responsibility and not a Social Media Image

It takes a high level of freedom to love and since we all know just as rights; freedom too comes with responsibilities. Naturally, it’s hard for a selfish person to love another. Now that’s what I actually consider as one of the mostly unseen insecurities among others. But if you love, you may find yourself being a little protective that to some may come off as jealousy, that’s fine but just don’t let it bar freedom and neither is it an excuse for your other-one to be irresponsible. Pay attention and don’t let yourself be insensitive of such feelings both ways. Before you venture out to love someone, or while in the process, check ‘what condition is your heart in?’ It is written, ‘…guard your heart, from it, comes matters of life…’ But is it guarded or just jammed? With no emotions coming in or out? Are in a state of denial, hurt or you are just being selfish in the name of ‘independence’? Either way, it’s your responsibility to get out of that position, your other-one can just support you. But staying in the negative end even when there is support may be a selfish act that will drain the life out of those supporting you out of that pit. It’s not just always about you, so reach out even when it’s uncomfortable for you! Even good & strong hearted people get tired of unreturned goodwill.  Many of you have this great excuse of my personality is this and that, stating limitations that you naturally face excentre. Others conform their lives to mimes, videos & ‘look-like-wisdom-quotes’ that seem to be well put to make professional sense yet it’s a bunch of junk meant to limit the flow of unconditional love. Please stop it! As human-beings, we are endowed with…

Is Political Participation in a Military Regime like Uganda Safe?

We recently concluded the International Youth Day Celebration under the theme, “Safe Spaces for Youth!” The Ugandan Government has prided in bring & maintaining peace. But is it really? I know many of us have not tried to participate in our political discourse and had a glimpse of power. Well, I have. And seen the people in those top positions are not willing to leave or tolerate any form of threat that jeopardizes that and that includes formations such as youth movements or people centered assertions. The current government is historically celebrated for using its military might to stabilize Uganda from dictator of the past and ushering in an economy that isn’t gun dictated. But at what cost has this come? Every time we seek change, we are reminded of how they went into the bush… talking of participation in democratic spaces, the government seems to think it’s all about creating political positions and not really giving people real power to make decisions. Sovereignty is the order of the day, to keep the peace, money and corruption (miss use of public funds for individual agendas) have fueled their ability to keep power. For a young person to become a leader, one has to align themselves to a patronage system placed to keep ambitious fellows in check. To maintain a grip on things, threats and unlawful (made-lawful) arrests are done. We as Ugandans today have peace from war but no true freedom to participate in political processes without being confronted with the dangers of contradicting those in power. The economy is our new war zone in exchange for a gun war-less poor and voiceless society setting. The Internatinal community seems to be confused on what Uganda’s state truly is. Politicians seem to really know the game they play, they have put…

Uganda’s Cooperate Tax Policy & the OTT Tax’s Impact on the Economic Inclusion of Youth

At the floor of Parliament, to the Right Honorable Speaker; Uganda has a high burden of youth unemployment at a record of 64%—the greatest of all times. A 2016 Youth Survey conducted by the Aga Khan University revealed that about 48% of youth aspire to own businesses. Youth’s desire to engage in entrepreneurship provides a clear path towards achieving United Nations Sustainable Development Goals and Uganda’s National Development Plan of ending poverty and improving the quality of life for Ugandans. The World Bank’s “voices of the poor” reported that over 60,000 poor people rose above poverty through personal businesses or gainful employment. In Uganda, small businesses are prone to early deaths not seeing their 5th birthday due to limited access to limited or no access to financial capital, poor working capital management, poor financial literacy, unstable markets unfavorable borrowing, lending and tax policies.   Far from it, the Ugandan economy is digitalized day by day, with limited capital to rest workspaces or hire human resource; young among many others have entrepreneurs have utilized online on social media platforms to run their business. Using Instagram, craft artists, fashionista and traders have marketed their products. Through Facebook, young entrepreneurs have built the business brands, run virtual offices and addresses hence legitimizing their existence on the digital market spaces and through Twitter, young people have pushed content to promote their products at the lowest bundle cost of 250 UGX since they have no capital. On average, on every sale made, with less capital of 265,000; a young person would sale a shirt he bought at 8500 at 10,000 and earn a profit of 1000-1500 ugx, in a month, maybe make sales of his about 30 shirts in stock using social media marketing a cost of 8,000 ugx a month on the social bundle.…

Knowing the Difference between Part-Time and Full-Time Lovers

The people around you have everything to do with the decisions you make; that’s why it’s important to know the difference between temps and lifetime if you are to succeed in life.  Falling in and be loved is one of the most exciting experiences I have had the privilege to enjoy. But I can’t say the same for falling out of it. Many of us have tasted the painful sting of a breakup/s and to most of us because we failed to understand love or differentiate between part-timers and full-timers, well I won’t spare you the heartache in your next venture.   Now, very many people have come out to define what love is including what I once wrote about love languages, how to choose life a partner and questions to ask before you say “I do.” In short, I like best 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 definition of love; “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hope, and always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”   As you can see, its hard work to actually love unlike the Hollywood reductions of love to just a feeling, so love is a relationship!! Ignorance of this onetime left me hurt just I also did to others but doesn’t have to be like that. In life, there are three kinds of people that will come into your life, those who want to hurt you, just have fun and those who want to grow…

In Loving Memory of My Daughter Ritah Namakula

“Daddy, how may I help?” Was the first thing you said to me You stood strong for others even when you did have the strength With your smile, you lit up everything around you In the grip of your hand, emergencies stood no chance Complications shy away when you are at work Laughter and joy has no room enough when you are present They say cleanliness is secondly to Godliness, but I say its is first to you Your kindness and warms always left a smile on the once needy left empowered by your love Traveling with you was my antidote to homesickness We have stood together right from High School, Red Cross, IDSS, Campus, Faraja and now you fill the Air I refuse to see you in the past But choose to see in the now and forever For you are ever lasting I will carry your presence to the breeze you have always loved When we stood on the shores of the ocean, we always felt part of something big together You didn’t like food that much, neither did you leave anyone around you hungry My heart is clogged with emotions right now, am mad you left so soon Who will I spend the holidays together with I wonder why I have to say good bye and why do they call it good anyway I won’t say it I don’t believe in that, I won’t say bye for your still alive in my memory The good times we had, 14 amazing year and at 22 your home Though You just transited to a better a place I can not bare see you lowered So I write this to raise you and open a door where I can reach you I won’t won’t hold you back cause thats ego…

Citizen Concerns about Uganda’s Security Top Organs Even with the Recent Changes

The President made a huge decision after the shocking dropping of Rt. Hon Amama Mbabazi; he finally replaced Gen. Kale Kayihura (KK) now former Inspector General of Police with Mr. Okoth Ochola a career police officer. However, what still runs in the minds of fellow Ugandans including me, will this change things? There are five areas to gather our thoughts around, and I hope the forces would have chance to take some of these concerns into consideration; Insecurity in the country We recently lost our very own young Susan who was kidnapped and killed after, we all saw the failure of intelligence offices to work together in preventing what happened. Could this have been the spark the president needed having attracted a lot of media tension? Kampala and Uganda at large once peaceful now leaves us the wanainchi (citizens) in fear of either being gunned down, kidnapped or worse as witnessed in the unsolved murders in Entebbe and other parts of the country. Clearly, the Uganda People’s Defence Forces (UPDF) revealed many dark secrets of police’s dirty games and involvement with criminals I will not mention at diplomatic, local and international drug level. Will the change of these leaders bring security? Indiscipline and wars between the forces Of late, many have suffered due to the wars between the former police boss and minister of security. We saw revealing of classified information, security secret informants exposed, and indiscipline in senior police officers. Is the appointing of the new IGP come with the same powers the former one had? Because that is the only way, actual discipline will be restored. As for the UPDF, am still confident they can back off under orders and work as instructed, I am still not sure about police. Crime preventers Wow! It was a good creation…

Revisiting My Memories for Inspiration, Writing the First Chapter of My Book

Stories of people’s lives, even fictional like. ‘The Lion King’, African tales and much more have inspired me to live life amidst adversity as a child up to a certain point.  I sometimes lived through fire with a hope higher than that of the burn pains believing that magically a miracle was to happen through my imaginary super powers only to walk through the blazing fire. Nevertheless, such hope can only go a long way until you hit bottom rock of bottom rocks, if you know what I mean. It is at this point that you need to be-reminded of truths in your amazing inspirational journey. A journey characterised of a super hero with a super power, for me that was courage and unfailing laughter. It is ironic how we look to other people’s stories to live through our own only to have it help another (smiles). Recently, at the moment when I absolutely had no hope, a ‘guardian angel’ reminded me of the worst situations I have been through and over come, it got me into a time travel spell, stuck in memory lane. Upon return to the present, I was inspired to start this new phase in my life. Every time I told people of what I have been through, I was always humbled at how they would react. They would use my mistakes and experience to live better lives. That is why I even started my blog back in 2010. I was wrong to think that the journey I have taken can only inspire people out there, I guess it inspires me too. It does not have to be a journey of success only, but one that tells the truth of life as it is and how we can overcome. So am taking a detailed trip into…

When the Going Gets Tough, it Can be Fun

Today I changed my website title from “Empower your Life” to “African Hustler” because I realized, in order to empower your life in a society and world such as mine, you need to hustle. Growing up in an African society is the most amazing thing that can ever happen to a person. Yes, I know what you must be thinking right now! “Does he know what he is talking about? With all this challenges and problems surrounding us?” Well, you are right… but still, it is a privilege in its own caliber. That’s because, we are offered a plain field (going gets tough) and an equal opportunity to be the author of our fate. The saying, “When the going gets tough, the Tough get going.” Now that’s a reflection of growing up here, the plain field and equal opportunity is to be ‘Tough’ and ‘Get Going.’ I have seen loss, failure, faced death in the face personally and suffered the effect of it upon the loss of the closest ones to me and anchors to life as it was at the time. But am still here, fighting, pushing through roughly, rising above oppression, walking under and above the law, bashing through fires, climbing mountains and breaking through every obstacles at every stage in life. Its a hustle, that’s what it means to grow up triumphantly in societies life Africa. That’s what makes it so much interesting, whats the fun in growing up with it all when you can enjoy earning it all? So, I like to think that am an African Hustler. Now, this is going to be the base of my first book this year…  “I believe that the best changes often start as single, simple thoughts. I vow to continue thinking big, and discovering how to make my…

Coming Back from a Heart Attack (A Kind Everybody Faces)

“Am pressed beyond measure and my heart cannot take it anymore. I exposed it to more than it could handle, now it is under attack and I do not know what to do. My heart is operating in numbness, am too numb to miss you and too bruised to risk opening up. My heart is under attack, attacked by those I loved but made me wait too long until I self-destructed. Attacked by those I poured out my heart to only to have them mock or take me for granted, attacked by the too soon departure of those who yielded into death, attacked by the pressures raised by my passions at work, in my dreams and life its self. It is attacked the guilt of now fully letting in, oh… it hurts.” Am sure many of you can relate with my outcry, that was a place I was in not so long ago but thank God, am free though am away many are stack there so I will share with you this blog. I recently shared about “life pressures” in my blog hitting something about our emotional health as some may call it a condition of the heart or soul. By nature I would like to think that am a soft-hearted person simply because of my kind of heart; How do you know you have a big heart? Ask yourself these questions; Do you have a tendency to put others needs ahead of your own? Self-sacrificial, take care of other people’s needs and neglecting yours? Do you always see good where others are critical? It can be the meanest person in the world but you see well in them. Are you an intense person, in that whatever you feel, you feel it intensively? Feel hard and love hard? Do you…

The Secret Warfare of Being Under Pressure Is Not Only One’s to Fight

Everybody expects me to get married, get a job, build a house, buy a car and have a healthy bank account not taking into account the hard work and sacrifices required. Nor the search or the pressures that come with acceptance or rejections. Right from an early age, I have always managed pressure well as a leader. However, I came to learn that with more power is more pressure. At 21 years, I was entrusted with the responsibility of running an entire university student government. One year down the road at 22 years, I lost my dad, the head of our family and breadwinner; culturally as the first-born son, I inherited my late father’s full responsibilities and role leaving me no time to grieve my loss of the only biological parent I had alive.  No one actually cared to find out how I truly was doing but rather praised me based on their assumption that I was strong, this birthed pressure in me. I was under pressure which later became anger turned inside, raging, moaning… having violence inside me. We live in a society where people ask, “How are you? Or how we are doing?” just as a greeting with no real intention of finding out how we are and they move on. Today pressure mounts more difficulty for Christians or religious fox; we tend to be more obligated to be okay. We feel like somehow we have done God a disservice to say we are not okay. We are expected to live a holy life according to human standards forgetting God’s own standards; that creates pressure. With every blessing, we have or get, comes a burden. The more blessed you are the more burdens, “…to whom much is give, much is required…” Of cause, not everyone will be happy…

My Account on How does Climate Change Affect Uganda Nowadays

On my way to Nebbi district in northern Uganda, a land commonly known as West Nile (named after River Nile) earlier this year, I was terrified. Once covered with green and moisturized air suddenly overtaken by dry fields accompanied by discomforting warm air; for it had not rained for the past three months and a half. As soon as we arrived, got off the car, a cheering group of mothers whom we had come to train in business skills with joy received us. Listening to them tell their stories of how the drought has led to famine hence claiming lives of loved young ones and the elderly. How the change in climate has crippled the agricultural production sector; as a result, causing increasing poverty levels. “What was going so wrong in this place that could be fixed?” I asked myself. Because of poverty, Nebbi resorted to the cutting-down of trees for charcoal burning to earn a living. Hence, farther reduce any possible chances of them getting rain. Just as Nebbi, so is the rest of Uganda. Our behaviors towards the environment have yielded to harsh climatic conditions. Swamp reclamation for industrialization or infrastructure development. In central region trees destroyed to create room for sugar production; swamps are reclaimed and replaced with factories of other forms of infrastructure. What we do not seem to realize is that with every swamp we have reclaimed, we have lengthened the dry season a little bit longer. With every tree we have cut, we have exposed ourselves to floods or even worse contributed to the expanse of the Sahara desert. With every omission or pollution into the atmosphere from our old vehicles, factories and so on, we destroy our ozone layer, worse still increasing levels of global warming in Uganda. What used to be the…

Open Letter to All My People, My 27th Year Birthday Message for You

From the high lands of Mountain Elgon to the flat lands, came Dad to the city from a humble background. We never had much but he offered us his rich spirit. I never chanced to meet my mom, but I know she was a goddess because she gave birth to me on the 7th November 1990 early morning.  As a kid, it never crossed my mind that I had to hustle just to make it through. Simply because my dad had my back; but the world was not up for grabs, especially when the pressures kicked in. Facing life’s giants at an early stage of my life, mountains of obstacles leaving me to think I was under attack. Seeking an anchor for my soul, a believer in my dreams, a friend for my strength, a confidant for my fears and strong hold for the unknown; trial and error became my new normal. Experience became my toughest teacher, examiner and discipliner. But I have come out stronger, pruned even though my wounds are yet to fully heal. Today as life goes on, I have come to learn more and more about responsibility. There are a lot of mistakes I have made. And I understand that there is a big problem, am not too blind not to see the pain kept in your heart.  I have hurt and disappointed many along the years. But with humility, to everyone I hurt along the way; emotionally, financially, socially, with power, neglect or in any way, Am Sorry. For all the things I put you through, all the pain I caused you, am truly sorry. Am sorry for the things I did not say or do. The help I did not give. The support I did not offer and much more. Being a young man…

What Most Ugandans Really Think About the #AgeLimit Debate

The process in which government is using to bulldozing its presidential Age Limit lifting decision and pushing the people to endorse it isn’t practical. It’s now a discussion of either you are on this side or the other, with no room for dialogue. What of those with no side? Can’t we negotiate on what can work for both of us? Or can we come to an amicable agreement that allows a smooth transition and not have history repeat its self? I have grown up to witness my family live from a poor to lower middle income class family, watched my father server under this regime as a police officer for over 30 years with nothing much to show. Personally, I haven’t had the chance to witness a transition. Luckily, through the history lessons in my high school, I learnt of regimes characterised by monarchy, slavery, colonialism, neo-colonialism, coupes, and dictatorship. One thing that characterised it all was endless holding of power. Back to today’s discussions and consultations around the issue of presidential age limit removal. We seem to be forgetting that the main discussion should be about the PRESIDENTIAL TERM LIMITS restoration. We need a negotiated constitutional amendment, establish a constitutional review commissions and re-discuss its issues without bias. The 1st issue in relation to presidency would be restoration of term limits. Imagine if we elected a 35 yrs old president. Then he or she rules Uganda without term limits for the next 40 yrs (the age limit cap)? Except from not thinking out of the box, there is nothing much or new that president would offer. Then the age limit would not have served the purpose Ugandans have been made to believe it would. We are just mad at the way government is shoving its decision down our throats…

We Take Back Our Power from the Military or Corrupt Leaders by Raising Words

It’s been so long since I had a say on the power structures of my community (East Africa). Many have risen up to say power is military supremacy; others have worshiped money and wealth. I guess they are correct in their own right based on what they have settled to believe as portrayed by those holding power. Today, it’s families of influence and great wealth leading nations, individuals with a great command over the military asserting their great played role in the security of communities, sometimes based on true heroic acts of liberation in creating stability as an anchor to hold power. Others succeed power from power holders just because they would provide a cover and sense of continuity after they hand it over (power) so as to maintain interests of their similar circle-mates. But we are reminded, times have changed and are changing, just like power as right by birth in the monarchy system back then changed to just prestige, so has security. It is no longer a privilege but a human right, not a tool for power but rather enforcement of the people’s will as expressed in words like many other rights. We cannot afford to stay ignorant of the power structures nor measure our abilities to hold power based on these ancient beliefs of wealth or military might but rather understand the strength in our words. Our power is that glowing center in all of us as humans. It’s what makes us speak up about an injustice when that injustice does not personally affect us. It is what makes us aware that we are better off if our fellow human beings are better off. My favorite African witter once said, “Power is the ability not just to tell the story of another person but the ability to…

We Don’t Just Fall in Love, We Build It

Am grateful to have been loved before passionately, to have loved too then and now. Simply because I have been liberated every single time. The first time I fell in love, I was young and inexperienced with simply an ideology that, “…people just fall in love” and it took two hearts. Just as I was, armed with those two components; I walked in the room and there she was, in a Black Elegant designer dress wearing a Glamorous Smile J with a very attractive aroma originating from the perfume on her. Smiling, and left speechless I hugged her and there, an intense feeling of deep affection and deep romantic attachment swept me off my fit. I guess one can say, “I fell in love at first sight.” We had known each other from the online class we both attended. Drawn to her by a combination of her characteristics, qualities which formed her distinctive character. Which I was able to know thanks to her distinct meaningful use of words both speech and writing, I was hooked. That’s was just the beginning of falling in love cause it takes a lot more than just two components. This kind of thinking has caused a lot of emotional pains to many out there and that’s why I want to talk about building love in a simple way. We when two love each other, usually they start what we all know as a relationship but due to lack of knowledge we make mistakes and end up Emotionally Blackmailing each other. Society has defined the rules of engagement (relationships) and hence we face challenges such as playboys and games women play, am sure you all have an idea. We fail to communicate to each other and resort to “What and If” Building assumptions and moving into…

Is Our Government System A Huge Joke Uganda? #SIMCardRegistration

The Ugandan government has famously been known for passing laws & great or remarkable policies which never get chance to see fortnight’s daylight or even less. Reasons, still not fully established, but one can’t help to question, “Is the democratic system of Uganda is a joke?” Following the recent SIM card registration policy passed by government, after many failed attempts, government finally followed through with it’s deadline leaving thousands of Ugandan’s phone numbers disconnected including Ofwono Opondo’s number the Government Spokesman & Head of the Uganda Media Center!!! Tracking back, shortly before the deadline. The Parliament of Uganda passed a law, directing UCC to postpone the Sim card registration deadline & give more Ugandans “who can’t read” a chance to register their SIM cards up to next year (Huge joke right?). However, despite of parliament’s ruling, the government through the ICT Minister Frank Tumwebaze went ahead to enforce their deadline of Sim card registration and we all know what happened on the 19th May 2017. What he did was ground breaking for the “Kisanja Hakuna Mchezoo government…” Yet still against the law. The minister of ICT was found in contempt of Parliament, which means he broke the law to enforce the law. Upon being summoned by the speaker, the minister still enforced the law by leaving the disconnected all SIM cards off. Ps, the summoning was never effected due to the events that followed. Shortly at the start of the week, Monday the NRM Party meeting seats (NRM MPs alone) in Entebbe. Not surprisingly, the Chairperson of the ruling party who is also the president of Uganda Uganda accepts the plea of the members of Parliament to extend the registration process and deadline. However the presidents only decides to push it up to the month of August 2017 which is…

Why Enterprenuer’s Face Problems Sustaining Their Businesses

I get so busy doing what I do that I get no time to live off what I do. Most of us are in a business we physically do, as a result we have limited our income because we only have two hands. We get so busy doing it and we don’t get time to grow it. When I started out Faraja Africa, I had to be everything as an Enterprenuer. Had to be the leadership, marketing, development, book keeping, mapping, planning, you name it. This was because of limited resources as a result of a small budget, I was a one man team with no staff to pass it to. I ended up getting super exhausted. Which is unlike for the CEO who passes the on work to other people hence making them accountable to him. “All busyness is not related to business which makes it a distraction.” ~T.D Jakes. You have to be focus on what is important & profitable for business. You have to reserve your self for the highest & best use. Note that your best use isn’t doing it, it’s running it. The problem of doing it your self is that you start thinking you do it better than anyone else, even if you had a team, your standards are too high that non of your team can handle. You need to get back a little and get your heart (emotions) out of your business and use your brain. Empower your team to do the work as you run things with the right motive and purpose of cause. Uganda is one of the largest Enterprenuer countries in the world. But most business do not stand to see their next year. And one of the biggest reasons is that many people start business to address their…

Favored By Default

Most of us if not all aspire for excellence seeking to be the best of our selves maybe for ourselves, someone, others or most importantly God so we can earn something from them, maybe love, or anything that fits. Because of this attitude, when we error we host a guilty party in our selves leading us into disappointment or some sort of depression in form of regrets and much more. As a christian, I have tried to live by God’s standards for long (The Commandments & Law) so I may earn His love.  Along the way, I ended up living a life that’s constantly imperfect to His eyes according to my view hence my regret! This continued until I discovered I was highly loved and Favored regardless of my imperfections. Lets put our focus for today on our relationship with God. To be clear, am not saying the law has no importance in our lives (NO). What am simply saying is that God loves us by default and we don’t have to earn it by works or in anyway. The meaning of a Blessing is simply Permission into doing or achieving something (release) Some people are blessed by their parents into marriage, others are blessed by their elders into business and in tern they actually see prosperity. This is because the power of positive word into another’s life is life giving, be aware… the same applies for negative word. Bringing you back, if the Lord said He has Highly Blessed and Favored You, it means it’s not based any condition or circumstance but rather Your Blessing is Your default position. Knowing that alone generates faith in you and it in turn enables you reach out to God just as He wants it (In confidence that He Has already Answered you).…

Those Who Enourage You To Quite Your Relationship Will Be 1st To Backbite You

A Woman Writes I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that its good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws. I am 32 years old. Me and my ex hubby dated for six years, I started dating him whilst I was in grade 12, I was 19 years old. We where best of friends, i waited until he completed college and started work, my family and his family then met, we got married and had a son. (7 years old now). My husband was short tempered at times, but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he can’t control me. Every time we argue, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain. My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he is controlling me I would always dare him that if you wish divorce me, I never wanted divorce, I just had pride and I never wanted to look a lose in his eyes. One day I pushed him so had that for the first time he beat me and lock me out side, I went to my family, my family took him to police, every time I looked like I am being abused! But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally. He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to withdraw the case, I felt that what I was doing is wrong. My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall. Of which he openly knelt down and apologised. I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled. After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue, and he remained alone. After two days I received a call that he…

Open Letter to Mother, This Day is Special With You. #MothersDay

Dear Mother, Who else is more precious & special than you? There are no words to describe my feeling for you; I cannot even attempt to explain the magnitude of your gracious love. You faced the winds when men & others tried to insult you or broke your heart while growing up, it should have broken you {maybe} but you still made it. You walked through fire when the world condemned you when you error, but you flew above it all. You conceived me, maybe I will not know how much trouble you went through, but I can only the pain, emotions, risks & challenges you went through & still. From the first day you conceived me, you had chance to take a pill or even abort me so you may save yourself from your pain. Nevertheless, you did not; you selflessly gave up your comfort for all those years & chose to pro-created me. Shielded me from all the winds, storm, fires, hunger, and more… You further sacrificed every resource you had so just you may buy me a life you probably could not afford for yourself. That old ‘Gomesi’ dress you wore & still ware for over 10 years bring tears in my eyes knowing that you gave up your luxury to give me gifts on every birthday that came & are to come. Mother, I am speechless because of your unconditional love just leaves tears of joy role down my eyes leaving me breathless without words. You are amazing, you are my Wonder Woman, my Super Human, My Super Hero and the Star in my Avengers life story. My Guardian Angel, Protector of my Body & Soul. If I have not said it enough Mother, I LOVE YOU. I promise you, I will always strive to be…

7 Steps On How To Turn Your Life Around 

There came a point in life were you seem not to have control over where your life is leading. You know you are headed the wrong direction but still blindly follow along because maybe you gave up on your self & have no idea how to turn things around. Yet you deeply desire to turn things around. My early life has been a maze, I did the same things every time & expected different results. As a result, I was poor, insignificant in society, disappointed my parents, my relationships sucked, even my own siblings disassociated with me, the list goes on. I was a person of no value, all I knew well how to do was talk rubbish, start trouble, never completed tasks, you name it. In short, I failed at everything I did. At the age of 17 years, I knew I had to get my name back from all the negativity & be restored to honor. I decided to turn my life around hence chose to first seek knowledge & wisdom. I discovered, “Men fall because of having a broken focus.” & also learnt that, “Men choose their habits & their habits choose their future.” There, I knew exactly what to start working on. Get focused & set habits that will lead me towards my purpose in life as you will see;    1. Know your self & what your going after. Set specific target. Like any of you, I thought I knew my self until after several psychological personality tests & consultations from my mentors & people around me. I discovered my weakness & potential. My talents & gifts paved a way for me to become a servant leader so I chose to focus on that from the word go. I built habits like, partiality, prudence, listening,…

The Mistakes Young People Must Not Make Before Marriage

Marry now with the little you have. Don’t wait to be a millionaire, Have kids early so they grow along with you. Grow with your spouse and kids and succeed with them. Start your life now as you might still not succeed at your target age. Many people have waited to make so much money before they get married, years later money has refused to come, still no wife, no kids. When you’ve found true love don’t hesitate waiting for money, it may mean waiting till eternity.  So many young guys are pretending not to be financially buoyant enough to marry but are already living couples life, so many girls are even wasting away on our streets as sex toys for men old enough to be their grandfather still they tell you they are not matured enough for marriage.  When you marry early, you get preoccupied with your spouse and not end up as “pubic utility ” for all and sundry, good enough your kids grow along with you. Stop looking for a “ready made” spouse, work your spouse’s success with him/her grow your wealth together it gives you a sense of belonging and you’ll have a say.   If you have means, please marry early, don’t wait till you see your friends’ kids graduating while you still have yours in kindergarten classes, don’t wait to be 60 years and you still have kids in elementary school, don’t have kids young enough to be your grandchildren. Contentment comes not from much wealth but fewer wants, don’t wait to buy Range Rover Sport or build Mansions before you start you matrimony, ask your parents where and how they started, you’ll see that you’re even better off.  Trust me, it isn’t money that brings happiness but contentment, be happy with the little…

How Failure Was My Best Guide for Success

Have you ever thought for just a second that life is a daily pressure? The thinks we want to achieve or have? The power & rights we seek to have that comes with responsibilities? It’s all pressure! But for any progress to happen, we must learn how to live under pressure. It is said, you will never progress from a comfort zone of your life unless you have attained the maximum level of success (which is rarely possible for many). I have had my share of success and failure in my life. But today, I want to briefly address the issue of rising up again from failure. A few years I embarked on a journey to run for the office of Member of Parliament representing the entire Eastern Uganda. With a successful 8 year leadership career and great track record, I had not planned for the possibility of failure. I gave the campaign everything I had, my resources, time, energy, reputation, and everything I had, it was a do or die situation for me we can say 😊. However, the inevitable happened, dynamics in the politics (party godfathers) were not in my favor! Losing the election left me with broken focus, bankrupt, heart broken, homeless, devastated, in one word, “Catastrophe.” To me, it was my end. My view of failure when everything is lost then was more like a pre-death experience, only worse that I had to live through the after effects of shame, mockery, condemnation, debts, poverty, hunger, you name it. This all I faced. Every single day I sunk deep and deep into destruction. One day, I heard Oprah say, “Failure is just life trying to move us to another direction.” These words sunk deep in, “…it’s not the end of me after all.” I said to my…

Women don’t need to ask for recognition, they have earned it! #BeBoldForChange

   When I heard the hashtag for this year’s International Women’s Day celebrations, “Be Bold for Change” I didn’t exactly get it! I mean, everybody can be bold to make a difference, right? This was until I personally reflected on the impact of women in my personal life!  I discovered my life was 87% positively impacted by women! My full-time parent I learnt most from (Mom), my teachers right from kindagarten to university (8/10 have been female), all my advocacy campaigns were 64% women dominated! My most dedicated organization and company staff 74% are women, most loyal customers too -women! My line manager at my current job, “cool manager by the way! – is a woman!” Same as former and as much as I can remember! My entire life has been impacted by these bold women and I never stopped to think twice of them!! All we do think about is the strong men just as society and culture dictates.  Women are in every aspect of our lives, right from bottom to top! We can just keep ignoring their efforts even when they do less to seek recognition of the great works they do or we could do things differently! At work, we are blind to the injustices they go through in the hands of our colleages; the sexual harassment, reduced to blackmail of either the job or her body for sex! We converse about it in a joking manner, not knowing how oppressing it is, we don’t think of that woman being our sister or wife. We are silent when all the men are promoted yet she works selflessly and tirelessly only to see others being promoted as she is left on her desk with a claim she is a “woman” or that she is “perfect for her current job.”…

How to Identify and Write Down Your Vision For A Simplified Lifestyle of Success.

The key to achieving your VISION is DISCIPLINE. Discipline is defined as self imposed standards for the sake of a higher goal. Self discipline doesn’t mean there are no other forms of discipline. There is external discipline in form of laws, enforcement and much more. An effective leader doesn’t need much discipline from the outside, they self-impose discipline on themselves and that’s what we call it self discipline. Hence the key to success in your life, is finding a vision that imposes discipline on your self because vision is the source of discipline. Discipline is the root of leadership, the very nature that attracts people to you. Because people admire discipline in other people that’s why we go and even pay to see athletes perform, celebrate them even e.g. Inzukuru, Kiprotich, Bolt not forgetting our very own Man-U football stars. It’s because of the discipline they put themselves through individually! Same is with leaders and you if you apply this principle to your self! People will begin to attract themselves to you. Your very life of discipline creates trust! People will start believing what you say. That’s why most athletes and professionals are used to advertise and market products. They are selling the discipline not the fame of that person or product. Disciplined people live very narrow lives, vision simplifies everything. It controls all your choices cause you know where exactly you are going and the roads to take you there. No trials and errors, because you know what you shouldn’t do! Vision defines your what to do in life! It gives you your permanent address in life, your destination hence your destiny which dictates your decisions, making life simple. Without a vision, life becomes complicated, it’s tough to say no! With vision, it’s easy to say no, you were…

Message to Entrepreneurs in Africa & World from the Late Dr. Myles Munroe.

  As a young Leaders and Businessman, The Late Dr. Myles’s teachings and wisdom have pushed me to great heights in my journey to success. I recommend more young people to read his message as well, be blessed: “I was born poor, sleeping on the floor with cockroaches and rats. Today, I own my own jet. Everything I have is paid for. I am debt free; I open new businesses every year and mentor many people,” -Myles ON UNEMPLOYMENT Myles Munroe strongly discouraged the reliance on Government for jobs, describing it as ‘lazy thinking.’“There is no such thing as unemployment in the world. What you call unemployment is what I call lazy thinking,” he says.“The work of government is not to create jobs, but to create an environment for people to develop their own work,” he asserts. ON GIFTS/TALENTS Munroe discourages employed professionals against relying solely on their jobs for income, urging them to instead create wealth using their unique talents. He also challenges aspiring entrepreneurs to develop and refine their expertise in a talent, idea, service or body of knowledge. When you refine your gift in an area, you become valuable; people seek you out and pay you. ON ENTREPRENEURSHIP Munroe said setting principles is the first step towards achieving success for any budding entrepreneur. “I will never be poor again because I have learnt the principles of business,” he asserts.“I can say without a doubt that what I have accomplished is based on principles passed on to me by my parents. You should never build your life on facts or techniques because these often become obsolete,” he cautions.“For you to survive today, you must accept the reality of partnerships. If someone emerges as my competition today, I am not supposed to kill them, but marry them,” he states.“Do…

Do You Know Your Love Language?

My mentor once told me, “if in your circle of friends you’re the only one who educates or empowers the rest of the group members, and they have nothing to say that builds you… Quit that group!” Well, what are the odds, I have one great one. I was chatting with a precious friend of mine who asked to stay anonymous… She asked me what my Love Languages was? My answer insinuated Swahili (laughs**) just like my other friend mentioned French! Funny enough, I have a book about this topic but never been motivated to read it. Thanks to her, I now understand them, let alone my personal love language much better. Ignorance is no excuse for no giving or receiving Love the right way. In her words, she shared. So there are 5 major Love Languages (basically how you best receive love, also that’s most likely gonna be the way you give love too, given that we give what we have, however, thats not always the case; possibly true 80% of the time though!) 1. Gifts (when you receive a gift from anyone, even if its just a lollipop for instance, you’ll b ecstatic! To u, that gesture means they put so much thought into whatever gift it is. It means the world to you! Usually, for you to show that u really care about somebody, your way of showing it will most likely be through getting them a gift bcoz gifts hold a special meaning to you) 2. Acts of Service (doing something for somebody like cleaning their room, running errands on their behalf, etc…) 3. Quality Time (you prefer to spend time with somebody, sometimes even if you arent necessarily talking, their presence is enough!), your way of showing you care and appreciate a friend is through…

Why Everybody Should Fast At Least Four Times A Year basing on Health and Spirituality!

The first thing that pops in people’s heads when they hear the word, “FAST” is denial of ‘FOOD’ & ‘PRAYER’. Well, they are wrong and yet at the same time partly right. I would like to think fasting is simply, “Disciplining of the body subjecting it to your control against all that has controlled it.” Ironically speaking, fasting is the art of denying your body and self things that are pleasing to it or you. For example, food, drugs (ps. Alcohol is a drug too.), movies, friendships, fan and many more pleasurable things in our lives. We all have things we crave to do or have, in turn… the urge to have them creates a patten of receiving, having, using…. the cycle goes on. I call it habit. Habits are controling, some are good, others are bad. Sadly, the bad ones always tend to be huge downsides in our lives. Hence leaving us vulnerable and most likely out of control. If we don’t check our habits, desires and way of life, we put our lives in a danger of having an addiction. We never want our lives to depend on a particular  substance, thing or activity. We want to be free!! We want to be in control. And thats why fasting is important! With reference to my personal life, am a great personality and pleasurable person to be around. However, I was so used to the idea of being taken as a good person that I completely forgot to watch out for those cropping and growing interests in particular substances like food and sugars, things such as electronics, technology, money… and activities such as romance, sex, friendship & relationship making and so much more. Not to say that this things are bad, however… the love of such things blinds you to their…

I Personally Think People Need to Mind Their Own Business Unless Invited!

The last couple of months have been hard I must admit, having to deal with a new year filled with old staff splashed right back at you in the presence. Sometimes I feel, writing is the only place I feel I can fight again. I have a tough life and I have come to terms with it. Dealing with heart breaks, great debts, broken family, failing career, failing ambitions, held-up finances and above all broken relationships. A wise man once said, “Men fall because of Brocken focus!” but I chose to pick-up on the other side of the coin, “All men fall, but the great ones get back on their fit.” No matter how much hell fire am going or have gone through, I today want to still think I am a great man, powerful, brilliant, talented and above all… principled. Been sick and tired of people telling me the wrongs I have done. Judging my every step of the way. Its funny how many of them think they got me all figured out. Oh well, I feel sad for their little lives. Because, the thing is… they are just too afraid of taking bold steps and making a difference. I bet if they were in my shoes, they would not take 3 steadfast steps. We all have such in our lives, “mostly our ex’s!!”, competitors, friends! “Oh yes, Friends!!!” Funny how those you bring close choose to study you enough only to bring you down. Guess what, I dodged the bullet. As mean it may seem, I slum the door all over their faces. If you one of them… am glad you are reading this. Someone once told me, “Put your heart in all you do. Be real!!”. This is me being real. Never carry forward to your present…

The Confusing Dilemma of Failure & Success, My Prison Of Misunderstanding. #BreakFree

Too much happening around that I feel am going crazy. Finishing pending projects and tasked to start new ones. With all the unwanted habits at their fullest peek, yet it’s at this time around where I am meant to least expect them. The pressure is so top to the bream that I no longer realize the great successes I have made in my career, personality, business and family life. I totally understand now how Peter felt when he was drowning yet walking towards Jesus at the same time. It seems the confusing dilemma of failure & success, have turned into my prison of misunderstanding. One can not believe how you can have two jobs, great pay, a rapidly growing business, losts of friends and partial masters scholarship in an international university but still fail to be fulfilled. My friends have graded it (my life) as top success, some have said am super blessed. But deep down, a voice is shouting sounds of disapproval & disagreement just because I did not reach my set goals. Well, just as open as this article is today, I choose to have my thought as well… “I frankly don’t give a damn what goals I have not achieved!!” I personally have achieved a lot with the most little luck I could ever have of late.” ( **may be if I tell it to my self, I may feel better** )  I have made just about the biggest mistakes in life a few weeks ago, and the most scaring thing is that I don’t feel bad at all, its like I just turned into a villain (this creeps me out) ***am I turning into a horrible mean person due to the rough paths I have been taking lately*** Why don’t I care anymore like I used to? Why…