I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that its good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws.
I am 32 years old. Me and my ex hubby dated for six years, I started dating him whilst I was in grade 12, I was 19 years old. We where best of
friends, i waited until he completed college and started work, my
family and his family then met, we got married and had a son. (7 years old now).
My husband was short tempered at times, but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he can’t control me.
Every time we argue, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain. My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he is controlling
me I would always dare him that if you wish divorce me, I never wanted divorce, I just had pride and I never wanted to look a lose in his eyes. One day I pushed him so had that for the first time he beat me and lock me out side, I went
to my family, my family took him to police, every time I looked like I am being abused! But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally. He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to withdraw the case, I felt that what I was doing is wrong.
My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall. Of which he openly knelt down and apologised. I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled. After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue, and he remained alone. After two days I
received a call that he is in hospital, my family told me that I shouldn’t go there because it will look like am begging him, and my sisters belived he is faking the illness. All this time, people felt
sorry for me like I was the one being abused.
He spent a week in hospital, after he came out, I just received a divorce summon. I wanted to say no to divorce, but because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me, I called him and say he wil get the divorce because I live like am in hell. When we
went to court, I wanted to make him pay, so I told the court that I needed his properties to be shared. To my suprise he openly told the court that whatever he and me acquired together should be given to me, all he wanted was divorce.
We where divorced in 2009 July.
Now, this Saturday (today) my husband is marrying, whilst iam here wasted! My family are gossiping about me, I depend on what my ex gives to my son for survival. I know I wasted my
marriage. I am here telling all wives that be carefull how you get advise.
Don’t be cheated, ichupo chisuma. Even my young sisters are much more respected than me. Those who encouraged me to divorce are always
bad mouthing me. Please ladies sungeni
amayanda. Natotela. Thought to share.
There is no benefit in pride for nothing