Freedom to Love Unconditionally is a Responsibility and not a Social Media Image

It takes a high level of freedom to love and since we all know just as rights; freedom too comes with responsibilities. Naturally, it’s hard for a selfish person to love another. Now that’s what I actually consider as one of the mostly unseen insecurities among others. But if you love, you may find yourself being a little protective that to some may come off as jealousy, that’s fine but just don’t let it bar freedom and neither is it an excuse for your other-one to be irresponsible. Pay attention and don’t let yourself be insensitive of such feelings both ways. Before you venture out to love someone, or while in the process, check ‘what condition is your heart in?’ It is written, ‘…guard your heart, from it, comes matters of life…’ But is it guarded or just jammed? With no emotions coming in or out? Are in a state of denial, hurt or

you are just being selfish in the name of ‘independence’? Either way, it’s your responsibility to get out of that position, your other-one can just support you. But staying in the negative end even when there is support may be a selfish act that will drain the life out of those supporting you out of that pit. It’s not just always about you, so reach out even when it’s uncomfortable for you! Even good & strong hearted people get tired of unreturned goodwill. 

Many of you have this great excuse of my personality is this and that, stating limitations that you naturally face excentre. Others conform their lives to mimes, videos & ‘look-like-wisdom-quotes’ that seem to be well put to make professional sense yet it’s a bunch of junk meant to limit the flow of unconditional love. Please stop it! As human-beings, we are endowed with the wisdom, power and sound mind of self-discipline with the ability to break through personal nature-buriers or when nurture fails. There is no such thing as extra, or people easy to love, but rather human beings that put in the effort to become loveable, a quality by-the-way we shouldn’t ignore or take for granted. Make up your mind already on who you want to be and be that person, otherwise, you give the people who love you a hell of a hard time figuring you out especially when every wimp and wind of change swings you along. People are always gonna talk, information, society and more obstructions will always come. But ask yourself, are you going to conform to the standards of this world or choose a more superior path of who you are. Don’t let people focus on your damage control or lead them on an endless journey of figuring out who you are. 

Instead, be lovable and consistent in your ways. It’s not about a moment or when you actually feel like it. It’s a discipline to love someone regardless the time, hence if done by two then there is no breaking it. Seek wisdom, read and learn how to love others, refer to love languages. It’s a burden to love an ignorant person, even to God!! Ever wondered how cheating comes about? Simple, rigidity… so be flexible and don’t keep count or score, just do it! Be efficient every single day, choose to become better, self-evaluate yourself, seek correction and feedback from your other one, and give it in a nice way that builds and not destroys. All this has nothing to do with age nor does it accommodate excuses of past heartbreaks, healing begins with humility and freely loving. That’s the only way fear can be vanquished. Remember, loving may be a risk but it’s worth taking, so give your time, attention and privacy selflessly with no expectations. But I also charge the other-one to be prudent enough to do the same, level-up and match-up your partner, if possible, surpass them when it comes to love. Who knows, this could be your life partnership, don’t let your old age get you with regrets. Strengthen your relationships from a young age, they will be solid stone when you age and a learning platform for others, so venture in the unknown now, build your love foundation and pillars to make it great. “Each gifted man needs a gifted woman to help him to fulfill his objective, destiny and purpose in life. The male and the female should be of one mind in doing the work of God.” -Anonymous

By Emmanuel Wabwire

Comments

  1. Brighten Abaho April 27, 2019 at 6:48 am

    Wonderful piece but there is one thing that we must take cognizance of; the bible clearly tells us not to confirm to the Standards of this world. If human beings can actually understand this then loving unconditionally will be understood. Another thing is to understand love as per 1corinth 13, that is the love that God expects us to have. We ought to compare our love to the love God has had for us.
    Lastly in all these things of relationships we ought to know understand each other. We have actually not gotten to understand the meaning of dating and courtship. Because even our fore fathers used to undergo the same before getting married. I can assure you that it will be hard to deal with someone whom you don’t know and understand.

    • admin April 27, 2019 at 6:59 am

      That’s very true! If they could only get a fraction of that. The would be a better place, hope they see your comment too

  2. John Odhiambo April 27, 2019 at 6:50 am

    A very sensitive and weighty subject here. More so for those who stereo type love as an act of the weak. Love is beautiful and it’s a great feeling to love and be loved.

    • admin April 27, 2019 at 6:57 am

      I totally agree, it’s a working effort.

  3. Limtek April 27, 2019 at 10:31 am

    This is wisdom brother.. in love you remove ‘l want’, ‘i feel’, and replace it with he/she wants, he/she feels and this makes it a love that isn’t expecting anything back but sincere with no conditions attached.

    • admin April 27, 2019 at 10:48 am

      Very true brother, it’s sacrifice

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