Knowing the Difference between Part-Time and Full-Time Lovers

The people around you have everything to do with the decisions you make; that’s why it’s important to know the difference between temps and lifetime if you are to succeed in life.  Falling in and be loved is one of the most exciting experiences I have had the privilege to enjoy. But I can’t say the same for falling out of it. Many of us have tasted the painful sting of a breakup/s and to most of us because we failed to understand love or differentiate between part-timers and full-timers, well I won’t spare you the heartache in your next venture.   Now, very many people have come out to define what love is including what I once wrote about love languages, how to choose life a partner and questions to ask before you say “I do.” In short, I like best 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 definition of love; “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hope, and always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”   As you can see, its hard work to actually love unlike the Hollywood reductions of love to just a feeling, so love is a relationship!! Ignorance of this onetime left me hurt just I also did to others but doesn’t have to be like that. In life, there are three kinds of people that will come into your life, those who want to hurt you, just have fun and those who want to grow…

In Loving Memory of My Daughter Ritah Namakula

“Daddy, how may I help?” Was the first thing you said to me You stood strong for others even when you did have the strength With your smile, you lit up everything around you In the grip of your hand, emergencies stood no chance Complications shy away when you are at work Laughter and joy has no room enough when you are present They say cleanliness is secondly to Godliness, but I say its is first to you Your kindness and warms always left a smile on the once needy left empowered by your love Traveling with you was my antidote to homesickness We have stood together right from High School, Red Cross, IDSS, Campus, Faraja and now you fill the Air I refuse to see you in the past But choose to see in the now and forever For you are ever lasting I will carry your presence to the breeze you have always loved When we stood on the shores of the ocean, we always felt part of something big together You didn’t like food that much, neither did you leave anyone around you hungry My heart is clogged with emotions right now, am mad you left so soon Who will I spend the holidays together with I wonder why I have to say good bye and why do they call it good anyway I won’t say it I don’t believe in that, I won’t say bye for your still alive in my memory The good times we had, 14 amazing year and at 22 your home Though You just transited to a better a place I can not bare see you lowered So I write this to raise you and open a door where I can reach you I won’t won’t hold you back cause thats ego…

Coming Back from a Heart Attack (A Kind Everybody Faces)

“Am pressed beyond measure and my heart cannot take it anymore. I exposed it to more than it could handle, now it is under attack and I do not know what to do. My heart is operating in numbness, am too numb to miss you and too bruised to risk opening up. My heart is under attack, attacked by those I loved but made me wait too long until I self-destructed. Attacked by those I poured out my heart to only to have them mock or take me for granted, attacked by the too soon departure of those who yielded into death, attacked by the pressures raised by my passions at work, in my dreams and life its self. It is attacked the guilt of now fully letting in, oh… it hurts.” Am sure many of you can relate with my outcry, that was a place I was in not so long ago but thank God, am free though am away many are stack there so I will share with you this blog. I recently shared about “life pressures” in my blog hitting something about our emotional health as some may call it a condition of the heart or soul. By nature I would like to think that am a soft-hearted person simply because of my kind of heart; How do you know you have a big heart? Ask yourself these questions; Do you have a tendency to put others needs ahead of your own? Self-sacrificial, take care of other people’s needs and neglecting yours? Do you always see good where others are critical? It can be the meanest person in the world but you see well in them. Are you an intense person, in that whatever you feel, you feel it intensively? Feel hard and love hard? Do you…

The Secret Warfare of Being Under Pressure Is Not Only One’s to Fight

Everybody expects me to get married, get a job, build a house, buy a car and have a healthy bank account not taking into account the hard work and sacrifices required. Nor the search or the pressures that come with acceptance or rejections. Right from an early age, I have always managed pressure well as a leader. However, I came to learn that with more power is more pressure. At 21 years, I was entrusted with the responsibility of running an entire university student government. One year down the road at 22 years, I lost my dad, the head of our family and breadwinner; culturally as the first-born son, I inherited my late father’s full responsibilities and role leaving me no time to grieve my loss of the only biological parent I had alive.  No one actually cared to find out how I truly was doing but rather praised me based on their assumption that I was strong, this birthed pressure in me. I was under pressure which later became anger turned inside, raging, moaning… having violence inside me. We live in a society where people ask, “How are you? Or how we are doing?” just as a greeting with no real intention of finding out how we are and they move on. Today pressure mounts more difficulty for Christians or religious fox; we tend to be more obligated to be okay. We feel like somehow we have done God a disservice to say we are not okay. We are expected to live a holy life according to human standards forgetting God’s own standards; that creates pressure. With every blessing, we have or get, comes a burden. The more blessed you are the more burdens, “…to whom much is give, much is required…” Of cause, not everyone will be happy…

Open Letter to All My People, My 27th Year Birthday Message for You

From the high lands of Mountain Elgon to the flat lands, came Dad to the city from a humble background. We never had much but he offered us his rich spirit. I never chanced to meet my mom, but I know she was a goddess because she gave birth to me on the 7th November 1990 early morning.  As a kid, it never crossed my mind that I had to hustle just to make it through. Simply because my dad had my back; but the world was not up for grabs, especially when the pressures kicked in. Facing life’s giants at an early stage of my life, mountains of obstacles leaving me to think I was under attack. Seeking an anchor for my soul, a believer in my dreams, a friend for my strength, a confidant for my fears and strong hold for the unknown; trial and error became my new normal. Experience became my toughest teacher, examiner and discipliner. But I have come out stronger, pruned even though my wounds are yet to fully heal. Today as life goes on, I have come to learn more and more about responsibility. There are a lot of mistakes I have made. And I understand that there is a big problem, am not too blind not to see the pain kept in your heart.  I have hurt and disappointed many along the years. But with humility, to everyone I hurt along the way; emotionally, financially, socially, with power, neglect or in any way, Am Sorry. For all the things I put you through, all the pain I caused you, am truly sorry. Am sorry for the things I did not say or do. The help I did not give. The support I did not offer and much more. Being a young man…

We Don’t Just Fall in Love, We Build It

Am grateful to have been loved before passionately, to have loved too then and now. Simply because I have been liberated every single time. The first time I fell in love, I was young and inexperienced with simply an ideology that, “…people just fall in love” and it took two hearts. Just as I was, armed with those two components; I walked in the room and there she was, in a Black Elegant designer dress wearing a Glamorous Smile J with a very attractive aroma originating from the perfume on her. Smiling, and left speechless I hugged her and there, an intense feeling of deep affection and deep romantic attachment swept me off my fit. I guess one can say, “I fell in love at first sight.” We had known each other from the online class we both attended. Drawn to her by a combination of her characteristics, qualities which formed her distinctive character. Which I was able to know thanks to her distinct meaningful use of words both speech and writing, I was hooked. That’s was just the beginning of falling in love cause it takes a lot more than just two components. This kind of thinking has caused a lot of emotional pains to many out there and that’s why I want to talk about building love in a simple way. We when two love each other, usually they start what we all know as a relationship but due to lack of knowledge we make mistakes and end up Emotionally Blackmailing each other. Society has defined the rules of engagement (relationships) and hence we face challenges such as playboys and games women play, am sure you all have an idea. We fail to communicate to each other and resort to “What and If” Building assumptions and moving into…

Those Who Enourage You To Quite Your Relationship Will Be 1st To Backbite You

A Woman Writes I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that its good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws. I am 32 years old. Me and my ex hubby dated for six years, I started dating him whilst I was in grade 12, I was 19 years old. We where best of friends, i waited until he completed college and started work, my family and his family then met, we got married and had a son. (7 years old now). My husband was short tempered at times, but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he can’t control me. Every time we argue, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain. My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he is controlling me I would always dare him that if you wish divorce me, I never wanted divorce, I just had pride and I never wanted to look a lose in his eyes. One day I pushed him so had that for the first time he beat me and lock me out side, I went to my family, my family took him to police, every time I looked like I am being abused! But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally. He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to withdraw the case, I felt that what I was doing is wrong. My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall. Of which he openly knelt down and apologised. I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled. After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue, and he remained alone. After two days I received a call that he…

Open Letter to Mother, This Day is Special With You. #MothersDay

Dear Mother, Who else is more precious & special than you? There are no words to describe my feeling for you; I cannot even attempt to explain the magnitude of your gracious love. You faced the winds when men & others tried to insult you or broke your heart while growing up, it should have broken you {maybe} but you still made it. You walked through fire when the world condemned you when you error, but you flew above it all. You conceived me, maybe I will not know how much trouble you went through, but I can only the pain, emotions, risks & challenges you went through & still. From the first day you conceived me, you had chance to take a pill or even abort me so you may save yourself from your pain. Nevertheless, you did not; you selflessly gave up your comfort for all those years & chose to pro-created me. Shielded me from all the winds, storm, fires, hunger, and more… You further sacrificed every resource you had so just you may buy me a life you probably could not afford for yourself. That old ‘Gomesi’ dress you wore & still ware for over 10 years bring tears in my eyes knowing that you gave up your luxury to give me gifts on every birthday that came & are to come. Mother, I am speechless because of your unconditional love just leaves tears of joy role down my eyes leaving me breathless without words. You are amazing, you are my Wonder Woman, my Super Human, My Super Hero and the Star in my Avengers life story. My Guardian Angel, Protector of my Body & Soul. If I have not said it enough Mother, I LOVE YOU. I promise you, I will always strive to be…

The Mistakes Young People Must Not Make Before Marriage

Marry now with the little you have. Don’t wait to be a millionaire, Have kids early so they grow along with you. Grow with your spouse and kids and succeed with them. Start your life now as you might still not succeed at your target age. Many people have waited to make so much money before they get married, years later money has refused to come, still no wife, no kids. When you’ve found true love don’t hesitate waiting for money, it may mean waiting till eternity.  So many young guys are pretending not to be financially buoyant enough to marry but are already living couples life, so many girls are even wasting away on our streets as sex toys for men old enough to be their grandfather still they tell you they are not matured enough for marriage.  When you marry early, you get preoccupied with your spouse and not end up as “pubic utility ” for all and sundry, good enough your kids grow along with you. Stop looking for a “ready made” spouse, work your spouse’s success with him/her grow your wealth together it gives you a sense of belonging and you’ll have a say.   If you have means, please marry early, don’t wait till you see your friends’ kids graduating while you still have yours in kindergarten classes, don’t wait to be 60 years and you still have kids in elementary school, don’t have kids young enough to be your grandchildren. Contentment comes not from much wealth but fewer wants, don’t wait to buy Range Rover Sport or build Mansions before you start you matrimony, ask your parents where and how they started, you’ll see that you’re even better off.  Trust me, it isn’t money that brings happiness but contentment, be happy with the little…

Do You Know Your Love Language?

My mentor once told me, “if in your circle of friends you’re the only one who educates or empowers the rest of the group members, and they have nothing to say that builds you… Quit that group!” Well, what are the odds, I have one great one. I was chatting with a precious friend of mine who asked to stay anonymous… She asked me what my Love Languages was? My answer insinuated Swahili (laughs**) just like my other friend mentioned French! Funny enough, I have a book about this topic but never been motivated to read it. Thanks to her, I now understand them, let alone my personal love language much better. Ignorance is no excuse for no giving or receiving Love the right way. In her words, she shared. So there are 5 major Love Languages (basically how you best receive love, also that’s most likely gonna be the way you give love too, given that we give what we have, however, thats not always the case; possibly true 80% of the time though!) 1. Gifts (when you receive a gift from anyone, even if its just a lollipop for instance, you’ll b ecstatic! To u, that gesture means they put so much thought into whatever gift it is. It means the world to you! Usually, for you to show that u really care about somebody, your way of showing it will most likely be through getting them a gift bcoz gifts hold a special meaning to you) 2. Acts of Service (doing something for somebody like cleaning their room, running errands on their behalf, etc…) 3. Quality Time (you prefer to spend time with somebody, sometimes even if you arent necessarily talking, their presence is enough!), your way of showing you care and appreciate a friend is through…

5 Things that May Make a Girl Act Desperate

Have you been out and met one of those hot girls who you didn’t expect to fall for you but all of a sudden she’s all over you? Or let’s say, she is a new employee at the work place and maybe on her recruitment, the boss told you to supervise her and within a few days she’s asking for dates or she signals willingness if a chance was given. At times this may seem interesting that you now finally have people falling for you without doing much work or you can get confused – all that happens will mainly depend on your experience. Babes at times can use ‘wanting’ you so as to have emotionless sex with you and with hidden agenda. As grandparents normally say; when something looks too good to be true then it probably is. So you have to use both your gut and full conscience to judge whether the path you are taking is really worth it. A desperate woman is a real issue. It goes against female programming. Below are five reasons why she’s acting desperate. 1. Biological clock When the alarm begins ringing, there’s nothing she can do to stop it. It’s often too late. While the Feminism philosophy may try so hard to empower the career woman, science will always show her that at a certain age; she won’t be able to have children. This leads to women doing anything they can to become pregnant when the wall finally hits. This normally tends to explode when the realization registers that she is close to losing the gift of a healthy child. That is normally anything after 27. Beyond this age – the zone is dangerous. If your instincts tell you she is above that age, don’t accept any convincing statement from her. If…

Are You With The Right Partner?

During a seminar,… During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?” The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author. Here’s the answer. Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love. People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. The key to succeeding…

An Open Letter To The Friends I Lost Along The Way

To all my old friends, There are days it strikes me as so strange that I don’t talk to you anymore. There are moments when something reminds me of you and I want to let you know, but so much time has passed that contacting you would be weird. Look at how far we’ve come since those younger carefree days. The real question is, how did we end up here? How did we go from being best friends to practically strangers? Back when we were friends, I never dreamed there would come a time you would not be in my life. I never meant to lose you, but it just kind of happened. Choices were made that led us both in different directions and now you’re gone. Some of these choices may have been conscious decisions to let go of our friendship and others may have led to our unintentional drifting apart. Some already had all the signs of separation showing before high school ended and some occurred unexpectedly as we progressed through college. Now your life is foreign to me. I no longer know what’s going on in it, and I wish things were different. But life happened. We drifted apart without really realizing, and now the gap may be just too big to bridge. Given the chance, I’d love to have you back in my life; I miss being around you. Unfortunately, we’re both so busy and living such different lives, that I don’t know if this is a reality anymore. I want you to know that I am still here for you. It does not matter how much time and distance is between us or how much further apart we may drift, I will always be here for you. If you need me, I’m never more than…

Five types of people to avoid in life

In life, we need the right people around us; regardless of the circumstances to enable us achieve our goals. It is said nature and nurture make a person. Chances are that we will meet a great deal of people along the way. These are individuals who will shape our tastes, perceptions and even beliefs. Here are the five groups of people you need to limit or avoid at all expense if you are to succeed. The complainer These are individuals whose primary focus is to complain in virtually all circumstances. There are no jobs; even the few which are available are already taken. They will take every opportunity to blame someone else and never appreciate anything that is good. You will always see the silver lining in everything and become settled in your comfort zone if you stay long enough around these people. You will wallow in self-pity, justified that there is nothing you can do about your situation. 2. The negative criticizers The sole aim of this clique of people is to ware down anything they perceive as not being good. They will brag on how so and so can do it better- never mind that they themselves are non-starters. Their criticism is usually some kind of sabotage. They will encourage you to just quit what you are doing and never suggest any alternatives. They enjoy the status quo as long as everyone else remains in their level or lower. Around them, you will enjoy their company just as long as you do not change. 3. Dream killers When you think that sky is the limit, they will convince you that you are fantasizing over impossibilities. They usually have their own lists of case studies of people who have tried what you are confident you will succeed in and failed.…

22 Questions To Ask Before Saying “I Do”

The Bible says that, “a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22. But we must understand that the finding is a process and it is a serious task. This process involves seeking and elimination. It takes time and energy. Ignorance of what this process involves is what makes many singles sad and discouraged or rush into mis-matched marriages. The truth is, finding just any type of life partner is easy; you can pick anyone off the street and go to the altar with her/him. But the heart-breaks and rejections from failed relationships are not easy at all. If you must find that one who would do you good, that one who is tailor-made by God to fit you, then you must invest time, even if it means waiting for some time. After all, the Bible says, “a virtuous woman, who can find?” Proverbs 31:10. This indicates that finding a good person, whether a man or woman does not come easy – you have to search diligently for them. Experiencing a long delay before marriage is not a bed of roses, neither is it easy to keep waiting when all your peers, friends and younger siblings are all getting married. I sincerely do sympathize with my fellow peers going through all of this, but it is better to suffer some pains now than be sorry in marriage. You need to be patient and never hurry. Based on my observations and experience in my parents’ marriage alongside others, I can safely say that ten broken relationships are far better than one divorce. You’ve got to take time and get it right so that you will not suffer later. There are only two kinds of pain: the pain of regret and the pain…

Are you married or preparing to get married? Pls read this…. WHAT A MOTHER TOLD HER SON A DAY BEFORE HIS WEDDING!

Mummy’s boy, you are now a man. Tomorrow you will have a new mother, a new cook and a new person to share all your secrets with. It will no longer be me but her. Love your new mum even more than you love me. Before you walk into her arms forever, let me give you some words to guide you. There was a day I was arguing with your father. We were screaming, tempers were high. I was angry and he was angry. Then I called him an idiot! He was shocked. He looked at me asking how dare I call him that? Immediately,I started calling him idiot, fool, stupid, crazy, I called him all sorts of names. Guess what he did? He didn’t raise his hands to hit me. He just walked away, banging the door as he went out. My Son, if your father had hit me and damaged my face, how would you feel sitting here with me today? How would you regard him as your father? Would you have been proud of him or would you be blaming me for calling him names? Never hit your wife! No matter the provocation; just walk away and things will be normal. Whenever she offends you, think of this story I just told you, it could have been your mum! Before I forget, after he left, I was filled with guilt. We slept on same bed that night and I went to him the next day. I pleaded with him, I did all I could to show am sorry and he forgave me. That day I cooked his favourite food, yes you know he loves pounded yam and Vegetable soup right? After that day, I never called him names, my respect for him was ten times stronger. There…

About to Wed, Why all these distractions?

Ever since she discovered that David had lied to her, all she had done was cry. Empty of everything but rage, there was only one thing on her mind. “Let’s call it quits.”   Daniela, I’m glad you asked for my advice, but as I told you before: “I don’t do advice, I do opinions” And my opinion is this.   Men are dumb. Sometimes you have to accept us and take us at face value. It is our human imperfections that cloud love. You have a choice to make: Either you lose him and regret it later or you could be patient. Who knows? You may be ready for one another.   Love is like fine wine. It only gets better with time. Like life, it is like tortoise. Not exactly smooth, but can only make progress when it sticks its head out. Like others friends that come and go, but there is always a core group of regulars who will always be with you. These are the people you can depend on.   Sometimes men lie about whom they are committed to thinking that with time they will know who they prefer. But it doesn’t always work out that way. The mistakes that David made are in the past. He has repented and asked for forgiveness.   You said: “I don’t know if I’m excited or terrified.” I want to tell you Daniela that sometimes it seems that the difference between what we want and what we fear is a feathers eyelash. I know all this because I’m older and wiser even though I’m only 19 days older. That’s a lot by the way. It’s particularly the lifespan of a wasp.   Have sooner with him sometime or dinner. It doesn’t have to be right now. It can…

Dear Crush, I know we are friends but…

Be mine so that I can post your selfies for everyone to see. I want to put a smile on your face and make you the happiest woman in the world because of everything you mean to me. I want you to know that you are not a girl people fight for; you are a girl people go to war for. In a cloud of your silence; you communicate so much. You know how I feel about you even though you think it’s a huge risk to our friendship, even though you’re worried about your parents finding out or the travel costs involved. You discard all the possibilities of joy and happiness just so you can entertain a single ‘What If’ in your thoughts. You say: “What if I give it a try and we date? How much fun am I going to have? I don’t want to have weekends where I have to miss you…what will it require for me to learn how to love you? Does it require you or me to travel regularly for this to work? If I am to do this, I need to be there with you and see you whenever I want to see you! I don’t know if this will have a good ending for us?” If there is one thing I have learnt is that you should never discard a possibility without giving a single step in its direction. We have to give it a try. True love is not a single emotion. It is simply the result of a series of actions and emotions. Love is an adventure, its all about giving unconditionally. Love is built purposefully. It’s not just a chance. You have to choose to care, to open your heart to someone, to have trust and faith in…

We are Just Close Friends

Wande is a young man in his mid-thirties. About eight months ago, he moved into a two bedroom apartment and as he got to know his neighbours better, he discovered that one of them, Mariam, was a widow. Mariam, in her early thirties, had been married just four years when her husband died in a motor accident; they had a son. Wande was moved by her plight and decided to help her whenever he could. He began by helping her put on the generator whenever there was power outage, then he helped to arrange for an electrician to help fix some faults in her apartment and even helped her once or twice to get fuel during the shortage crisis; as gratitude for his thoughtfulness, Mariam often cooked for him. Wande also grew close to Mariam’s son, Richard; he took him out a lot, spent hours playing with him and Richard often spent the better part of the weekends in Wande’s apartment. Though he had no ulterior motives for his actions, it became clear to Wande one evening that he had to put a stop to his actions when one of his other neighbours referred to Mariam as his wife; he soon learnt that people thought he was having an affair with Mariam and he decided to pull back from her but it was easier said than done. After two days of not seeing Mariam or picking her calls, Wande realised that he missed her a lot and soon reverted to spending time with her and Richard. In all this, he never really ~ thought of the fact that they were getting attached to each other. Whilst all this was still going on, Wande met and began dating Kike. He had told Kike about Mariam earlier in their relationship but somehow…

How to Choose a Life Partner 

Choosing a life partner is the biggest decision you’ll make outside of choosing to accept Jesus Christ as Savior.I’ve met with scores of couples for premarital counseling through the years. And one of the first points I try to get across to them is that “desire” does not equal love. Desire may be illustrated by a young person who tells you they can’t live without you, that they’re miserable, and that life seems colorless and empty when you’re not around. That may be a form of love, but it’s not the sort of love that will hold a marriage together through the years. While they may feel they “need” you today, it’s possible that five months from now you’ll no longer meet their “need,” and they’ll find that they “need” someone else. What I tell these young couples is that love is based on commitment, and that everything you do is to fulfill, satisfy, and serve the one you love. Real love doesn’t enter a relationship with an expectation to just receive. It enters a relationship to give and give and give. Let me illustrate how deceptive the world’s definition of “love” can be. Picture a young couple who has been dating for a few weeks. It isn’t long before this young man tells his girlfriend how much he loves her and how difficult it is to keep his hands off her. Pressing her to engage in a physical relationship, he explains that he “loves her so much” he can no longer restrain himself, he want to defile her through fornication (which many people refer to as premarital sex). The truth is, any young woman who hears that line should realize that the young man doesn’t love her too much… he loves her too little. Actually, he’s not thinking about…

Words From Father to a Son About #Marriage

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her. 2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go. 3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office. 4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face. 5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent. 6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

An Open Letter To The Girl Who Let The Nice Guy Go

I’ve seen it happen way too many times: The nice guy loses the girl for being exactly who he is. What’s even worse is if he’s really the nice guy, he’s going to lose her and say nothing about it. He’ll accept it as something she truly wants and give her his best wishes, as she walks away being everything he could ever want. On behalf of all the nice guys out there, this is to the girl who walked out on the best thing that ever happened to her: Dear Girl Who Walked Away, It’s not like you weren’t aware of what you were getting yourself into. He told you he was nice. He trusted easily and gave you all he could when he could. The nice guy believes in doing things right. He was there when you needed him to be, and he went out of his way to make sure you knew just how much you could mean to someone. We live in a generation where we all have to wear masks and play parts to make it through the battlefield of dating in the 21st century. There is no such thing as giving it your all. We like quotes on Facebook and post things on Instagram stating we want the masochist one day and the romantic the next. We play these games where being available can only happen sometimes, and playing hard-to-get must be our number one priority. Why? I thought the ultimate goal was to eventually settle down. I mean, what is the point of dating if you have no desire for it to go anywhere? If a one-night stand is what you’re looking for, leave the good guys alone and toy within the levels you lay down. Save yourself time and energy because the…

28 ways to make her Smile :)

[1] Tell her she is Beautiful. not hot or fine. [2] Hold her hand at ANY moment even if it is just for a second…. [3] Kiss her on the forehead. [4] Leave her voice messages to wake up to. [5] ALWAYS tell her you love her at any & and all times. [6] When she is upset, hold her tight & tell her how much she means to you. [7] Recognize the small things ..they usually mean the most. [8] Call her Sweetie or BABY. [9] Sing to her no matter how horrible your voice is. [10] Pick her over all the OTHER girls you hang out with. [11] Write her notes.(she loves them) [12] Introduce her to family & friends as your girlfriend. [13] Play with her hair. [14] Pick her up, tickle her,& play WRESTLE with her. [15] Sit in the park & just TALK to her. [16] Tell her funny jokes, tell her stupid jokes, just tell her joke. [17] Throw pebbles at her window in the middle of the night just because u missed her. [18] Let her fall asleep in your arms. [19] Carve your names into a TREE. [20] If she`s mad. Kiss her ! [21] Give her piggyback rides. [22] Bring her flowers just because. [23] Treat her the same around your friends as you do when you`re alone. [24] Look her in the eyes & Smile. [25] Let her take as many pictures as she wants. [26] SL0W DANCE with her, even if there isn’t any music playing. [27] KISS HER IN THE RAIN. [28] If you`re in love with her tell her.

Letter To My Unofficial Boo

Dear Bae, I know you don’t like reading, so I’m gonna make this as brief as possible. And I’m not writing this the traditional style, I’m gonna number my points. (Yayy, Finally! I’ve always wanted to do this numbering thing on Twitter but I couldn’t. *sighs). Okay, here goes: 1. We’re in love with each other. (Ugh, I sound mushy) 2. But we’re not dating. And we can’t date now. (We already discussed the reasons) 3. Meaning we’re just friends. 4. And friends don’t make out. (You know what friends do- borrow your stuff without returning it, ask for money without saying ‘Please’, visit you and shorten your ration when you want to eat, tease you until you’re mad, and all that)   5. Friends that make out are ‘friends with benefits’. And hell no, I don’t want to be your ‘friends with benefits’. (I’ve always thought of them as horny people with no emotions, I mean… How can you make out with someone you’re not in love with?) 6. Yes, we’ve made out a couple of times before (I just said ‘a couple of times’ to trivialise this, we both know the truth). So my point is: we need to stop it. Both of us enjoyed it but it doesn’t make it right. We’re sinning against our bodies and it’s displeasing God. (Lawd, I sound like a hypocrite, I’m so ashamed of myself) 7. That we ‘love’ each other doesn’t mean we have to make out (or do that other one that starts with s and ends with x). Love is not a feeling; feelings come and go. Love is a decision. (Epic line yeah? Saw it in my dad’s write-up for his pre-marital class students). If we really love each other, we’ll decide to respect each other (our…

11 Signs that she is #Marriage Material!

1. If your Girlfriend come to your house and join you in drinking porridge, marry her. 2. If you take her to a restaurant and she picked soda/ pure-water instead of expensive meals, She is understanding marry her. 3. If she sees someone with Benz but decided to follow you with Tuktuk/BodaBoda bicycle, my brother that is your bone. 4. She come to your house and wash even your brothers and sisters clothes, marry her fast. 5. You gave her 50K for shopping but she went for mtumba(second-hand) and bring back 45K to you, marry her because she read economics. 6. She will call you everyday and ask if you need recharge card, brother claim her Ooh fast fast! 7. If the girl used to give you her pocket money every week, She loves you marry her. 8. If both of you enter bus she will pay, That is a good sign 9. Whenever the girl is eating with you and she’s eating only bone while you eat meat, marry her. 10. When you asked her what she want and she said nothing, brother she deserves everything. 11. Above all, if a girl goes with our food for 7 days fasting for you to be a success and best lover and fear God, now this one crowns. Emmanuel Wabwire (Editor)