In Loving Memory of My Daughter Ritah Namakula

“Daddy, how may I help?” Was the first thing you said to me You stood strong for others even when you did have the strength With your smile, you lit up everything around you In the grip of your hand, emergencies stood no chance Complications shy away when you are at work Laughter and joy has no room enough when you are present They say cleanliness is secondly to Godliness, but I say its is first to you Your kindness and warms always left a smile on the once needy left empowered by your love Traveling with you was my antidote to homesickness We have stood together right from High School, Red Cross, IDSS, Campus, Faraja and now you fill the Air I refuse to see you in the past But choose to see in the now and forever For you are ever lasting I will carry your presence to the breeze you have always loved When we stood on the shores of the ocean, we always felt part of something big together You didn’t like food that much, neither did you leave anyone around you hungry My heart is clogged with emotions right now, am mad you left so soon Who will I spend the holidays together with I wonder why I have to say good bye and why do they call it good anyway I won’t say it I don’t believe in that, I won’t say bye for your still alive in my memory The good times we had, 14 amazing year and at 22 your home Though You just transited to a better a place I can not bare see you lowered So I write this to raise you and open a door where I can reach you I won’t won’t hold you back cause thats ego…

Revisiting My Memories for Inspiration, Writing the First Chapter of My Book

Stories of people’s lives, even fictional like. ‘The Lion King’, African tales and much more have inspired me to live life amidst adversity as a child up to a certain point.  I sometimes lived through fire with a hope higher than that of the burn pains believing that magically a miracle was to happen through my imaginary super powers only to walk through the blazing fire. Nevertheless, such hope can only go a long way until you hit bottom rock of bottom rocks, if you know what I mean. It is at this point that you need to be-reminded of truths in your amazing inspirational journey. A journey characterised of a super hero with a super power, for me that was courage and unfailing laughter. It is ironic how we look to other people’s stories to live through our own only to have it help another (smiles). Recently, at the moment when I absolutely had no hope, a ‘guardian angel’ reminded me of the worst situations I have been through and over come, it got me into a time travel spell, stuck in memory lane. Upon return to the present, I was inspired to start this new phase in my life. Every time I told people of what I have been through, I was always humbled at how they would react. They would use my mistakes and experience to live better lives. That is why I even started my blog back in 2010. I was wrong to think that the journey I have taken can only inspire people out there, I guess it inspires me too. It does not have to be a journey of success only, but one that tells the truth of life as it is and how we can overcome. So am taking a detailed trip into…

Coming Back from a Heart Attack (A Kind Everybody Faces)

“Am pressed beyond measure and my heart cannot take it anymore. I exposed it to more than it could handle, now it is under attack and I do not know what to do. My heart is operating in numbness, am too numb to miss you and too bruised to risk opening up. My heart is under attack, attacked by those I loved but made me wait too long until I self-destructed. Attacked by those I poured out my heart to only to have them mock or take me for granted, attacked by the too soon departure of those who yielded into death, attacked by the pressures raised by my passions at work, in my dreams and life its self. It is attacked the guilt of now fully letting in, oh… it hurts.” Am sure many of you can relate with my outcry, that was a place I was in not so long ago but thank God, am free though am away many are stack there so I will share with you this blog. I recently shared about “life pressures” in my blog hitting something about our emotional health as some may call it a condition of the heart or soul. By nature I would like to think that am a soft-hearted person simply because of my kind of heart; How do you know you have a big heart? Ask yourself these questions; Do you have a tendency to put others needs ahead of your own? Self-sacrificial, take care of other people’s needs and neglecting yours? Do you always see good where others are critical? It can be the meanest person in the world but you see well in them. Are you an intense person, in that whatever you feel, you feel it intensively? Feel hard and love hard? Do you…

The Secret Warfare of Being Under Pressure Is Not Only One’s to Fight

Everybody expects me to get married, get a job, build a house, buy a car and have a healthy bank account not taking into account the hard work and sacrifices required. Nor the search or the pressures that come with acceptance or rejections. Right from an early age, I have always managed pressure well as a leader. However, I came to learn that with more power is more pressure. At 21 years, I was entrusted with the responsibility of running an entire university student government. One year down the road at 22 years, I lost my dad, the head of our family and breadwinner; culturally as the first-born son, I inherited my late father’s full responsibilities and role leaving me no time to grieve my loss of the only biological parent I had alive.  No one actually cared to find out how I truly was doing but rather praised me based on their assumption that I was strong, this birthed pressure in me. I was under pressure which later became anger turned inside, raging, moaning… having violence inside me. We live in a society where people ask, “How are you? Or how we are doing?” just as a greeting with no real intention of finding out how we are and they move on. Today pressure mounts more difficulty for Christians or religious fox; we tend to be more obligated to be okay. We feel like somehow we have done God a disservice to say we are not okay. We are expected to live a holy life according to human standards forgetting God’s own standards; that creates pressure. With every blessing, we have or get, comes a burden. The more blessed you are the more burdens, “…to whom much is give, much is required…” Of cause, not everyone will be happy…

Open Letter to All My People, My 27th Year Birthday Message for You

From the high lands of Mountain Elgon to the flat lands, came Dad to the city from a humble background. We never had much but he offered us his rich spirit. I never chanced to meet my mom, but I know she was a goddess because she gave birth to me on the 7th November 1990 early morning.  As a kid, it never crossed my mind that I had to hustle just to make it through. Simply because my dad had my back; but the world was not up for grabs, especially when the pressures kicked in. Facing life’s giants at an early stage of my life, mountains of obstacles leaving me to think I was under attack. Seeking an anchor for my soul, a believer in my dreams, a friend for my strength, a confidant for my fears and strong hold for the unknown; trial and error became my new normal. Experience became my toughest teacher, examiner and discipliner. But I have come out stronger, pruned even though my wounds are yet to fully heal. Today as life goes on, I have come to learn more and more about responsibility. There are a lot of mistakes I have made. And I understand that there is a big problem, am not too blind not to see the pain kept in your heart.  I have hurt and disappointed many along the years. But with humility, to everyone I hurt along the way; emotionally, financially, socially, with power, neglect or in any way, Am Sorry. For all the things I put you through, all the pain I caused you, am truly sorry. Am sorry for the things I did not say or do. The help I did not give. The support I did not offer and much more. Being a young man…

We Don’t Just Fall in Love, We Build It

Am grateful to have been loved before passionately, to have loved too then and now. Simply because I have been liberated every single time. The first time I fell in love, I was young and inexperienced with simply an ideology that, “…people just fall in love” and it took two hearts. Just as I was, armed with those two components; I walked in the room and there she was, in a Black Elegant designer dress wearing a Glamorous Smile J with a very attractive aroma originating from the perfume on her. Smiling, and left speechless I hugged her and there, an intense feeling of deep affection and deep romantic attachment swept me off my fit. I guess one can say, “I fell in love at first sight.” We had known each other from the online class we both attended. Drawn to her by a combination of her characteristics, qualities which formed her distinctive character. Which I was able to know thanks to her distinct meaningful use of words both speech and writing, I was hooked. That’s was just the beginning of falling in love cause it takes a lot more than just two components. This kind of thinking has caused a lot of emotional pains to many out there and that’s why I want to talk about building love in a simple way. We when two love each other, usually they start what we all know as a relationship but due to lack of knowledge we make mistakes and end up Emotionally Blackmailing each other. Society has defined the rules of engagement (relationships) and hence we face challenges such as playboys and games women play, am sure you all have an idea. We fail to communicate to each other and resort to “What and If” Building assumptions and moving into…

Favored By Default

Most of us if not all aspire for excellence seeking to be the best of our selves maybe for ourselves, someone, others or most importantly God so we can earn something from them, maybe love, or anything that fits. Because of this attitude, when we error we host a guilty party in our selves leading us into disappointment or some sort of depression in form of regrets and much more. As a christian, I have tried to live by God’s standards for long (The Commandments & Law) so I may earn His love.  Along the way, I ended up living a life that’s constantly imperfect to His eyes according to my view hence my regret! This continued until I discovered I was highly loved and Favored regardless of my imperfections. Lets put our focus for today on our relationship with God. To be clear, am not saying the law has no importance in our lives (NO). What am simply saying is that God loves us by default and we don’t have to earn it by works or in anyway. The meaning of a Blessing is simply Permission into doing or achieving something (release) Some people are blessed by their parents into marriage, others are blessed by their elders into business and in tern they actually see prosperity. This is because the power of positive word into another’s life is life giving, be aware… the same applies for negative word. Bringing you back, if the Lord said He has Highly Blessed and Favored You, it means it’s not based any condition or circumstance but rather Your Blessing is Your default position. Knowing that alone generates faith in you and it in turn enables you reach out to God just as He wants it (In confidence that He Has already Answered you).…

Those Who Enourage You To Quite Your Relationship Will Be 1st To Backbite You

A Woman Writes I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that its good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws. I am 32 years old. Me and my ex hubby dated for six years, I started dating him whilst I was in grade 12, I was 19 years old. We where best of friends, i waited until he completed college and started work, my family and his family then met, we got married and had a son. (7 years old now). My husband was short tempered at times, but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he can’t control me. Every time we argue, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain. My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he is controlling me I would always dare him that if you wish divorce me, I never wanted divorce, I just had pride and I never wanted to look a lose in his eyes. One day I pushed him so had that for the first time he beat me and lock me out side, I went to my family, my family took him to police, every time I looked like I am being abused! But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally. He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to withdraw the case, I felt that what I was doing is wrong. My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall. Of which he openly knelt down and apologised. I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled. After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue, and he remained alone. After two days I received a call that he…

Open Letter to Mother, This Day is Special With You. #MothersDay

Dear Mother, Who else is more precious & special than you? There are no words to describe my feeling for you; I cannot even attempt to explain the magnitude of your gracious love. You faced the winds when men & others tried to insult you or broke your heart while growing up, it should have broken you {maybe} but you still made it. You walked through fire when the world condemned you when you error, but you flew above it all. You conceived me, maybe I will not know how much trouble you went through, but I can only the pain, emotions, risks & challenges you went through & still. From the first day you conceived me, you had chance to take a pill or even abort me so you may save yourself from your pain. Nevertheless, you did not; you selflessly gave up your comfort for all those years & chose to pro-created me. Shielded me from all the winds, storm, fires, hunger, and more… You further sacrificed every resource you had so just you may buy me a life you probably could not afford for yourself. That old ‘Gomesi’ dress you wore & still ware for over 10 years bring tears in my eyes knowing that you gave up your luxury to give me gifts on every birthday that came & are to come. Mother, I am speechless because of your unconditional love just leaves tears of joy role down my eyes leaving me breathless without words. You are amazing, you are my Wonder Woman, my Super Human, My Super Hero and the Star in my Avengers life story. My Guardian Angel, Protector of my Body & Soul. If I have not said it enough Mother, I LOVE YOU. I promise you, I will always strive to be…

7 Steps On How To Turn Your Life Around 

There came a point in life were you seem not to have control over where your life is leading. You know you are headed the wrong direction but still blindly follow along because maybe you gave up on your self & have no idea how to turn things around. Yet you deeply desire to turn things around. My early life has been a maze, I did the same things every time & expected different results. As a result, I was poor, insignificant in society, disappointed my parents, my relationships sucked, even my own siblings disassociated with me, the list goes on. I was a person of no value, all I knew well how to do was talk rubbish, start trouble, never completed tasks, you name it. In short, I failed at everything I did. At the age of 17 years, I knew I had to get my name back from all the negativity & be restored to honor. I decided to turn my life around hence chose to first seek knowledge & wisdom. I discovered, “Men fall because of having a broken focus.” & also learnt that, “Men choose their habits & their habits choose their future.” There, I knew exactly what to start working on. Get focused & set habits that will lead me towards my purpose in life as you will see;    1. Know your self & what your going after. Set specific target. Like any of you, I thought I knew my self until after several psychological personality tests & consultations from my mentors & people around me. I discovered my weakness & potential. My talents & gifts paved a way for me to become a servant leader so I chose to focus on that from the word go. I built habits like, partiality, prudence, listening,…

The Mistakes Young People Must Not Make Before Marriage

Marry now with the little you have. Don’t wait to be a millionaire, Have kids early so they grow along with you. Grow with your spouse and kids and succeed with them. Start your life now as you might still not succeed at your target age. Many people have waited to make so much money before they get married, years later money has refused to come, still no wife, no kids. When you’ve found true love don’t hesitate waiting for money, it may mean waiting till eternity.  So many young guys are pretending not to be financially buoyant enough to marry but are already living couples life, so many girls are even wasting away on our streets as sex toys for men old enough to be their grandfather still they tell you they are not matured enough for marriage.  When you marry early, you get preoccupied with your spouse and not end up as “pubic utility ” for all and sundry, good enough your kids grow along with you. Stop looking for a “ready made” spouse, work your spouse’s success with him/her grow your wealth together it gives you a sense of belonging and you’ll have a say.   If you have means, please marry early, don’t wait till you see your friends’ kids graduating while you still have yours in kindergarten classes, don’t wait to be 60 years and you still have kids in elementary school, don’t have kids young enough to be your grandchildren. Contentment comes not from much wealth but fewer wants, don’t wait to buy Range Rover Sport or build Mansions before you start you matrimony, ask your parents where and how they started, you’ll see that you’re even better off.  Trust me, it isn’t money that brings happiness but contentment, be happy with the little…

How Failure Was My Best Guide for Success

Have you ever thought for just a second that life is a daily pressure? The thinks we want to achieve or have? The power & rights we seek to have that comes with responsibilities? It’s all pressure! But for any progress to happen, we must learn how to live under pressure. It is said, you will never progress from a comfort zone of your life unless you have attained the maximum level of success (which is rarely possible for many). I have had my share of success and failure in my life. But today, I want to briefly address the issue of rising up again from failure. A few years I embarked on a journey to run for the office of Member of Parliament representing the entire Eastern Uganda. With a successful 8 year leadership career and great track record, I had not planned for the possibility of failure. I gave the campaign everything I had, my resources, time, energy, reputation, and everything I had, it was a do or die situation for me we can say 😊. However, the inevitable happened, dynamics in the politics (party godfathers) were not in my favor! Losing the election left me with broken focus, bankrupt, heart broken, homeless, devastated, in one word, “Catastrophe.” To me, it was my end. My view of failure when everything is lost then was more like a pre-death experience, only worse that I had to live through the after effects of shame, mockery, condemnation, debts, poverty, hunger, you name it. This all I faced. Every single day I sunk deep and deep into destruction. One day, I heard Oprah say, “Failure is just life trying to move us to another direction.” These words sunk deep in, “…it’s not the end of me after all.” I said to my…

How to Identify and Write Down Your Vision For A Simplified Lifestyle of Success.

The key to achieving your VISION is DISCIPLINE. Discipline is defined as self imposed standards for the sake of a higher goal. Self discipline doesn’t mean there are no other forms of discipline. There is external discipline in form of laws, enforcement and much more. An effective leader doesn’t need much discipline from the outside, they self-impose discipline on themselves and that’s what we call it self discipline. Hence the key to success in your life, is finding a vision that imposes discipline on your self because vision is the source of discipline. Discipline is the root of leadership, the very nature that attracts people to you. Because people admire discipline in other people that’s why we go and even pay to see athletes perform, celebrate them even e.g. Inzukuru, Kiprotich, Bolt not forgetting our very own Man-U football stars. It’s because of the discipline they put themselves through individually! Same is with leaders and you if you apply this principle to your self! People will begin to attract themselves to you. Your very life of discipline creates trust! People will start believing what you say. That’s why most athletes and professionals are used to advertise and market products. They are selling the discipline not the fame of that person or product. Disciplined people live very narrow lives, vision simplifies everything. It controls all your choices cause you know where exactly you are going and the roads to take you there. No trials and errors, because you know what you shouldn’t do! Vision defines your what to do in life! It gives you your permanent address in life, your destination hence your destiny which dictates your decisions, making life simple. Without a vision, life becomes complicated, it’s tough to say no! With vision, it’s easy to say no, you were…

Message to Entrepreneurs in Africa & World from the Late Dr. Myles Munroe.

  As a young Leaders and Businessman, The Late Dr. Myles’s teachings and wisdom have pushed me to great heights in my journey to success. I recommend more young people to read his message as well, be blessed: “I was born poor, sleeping on the floor with cockroaches and rats. Today, I own my own jet. Everything I have is paid for. I am debt free; I open new businesses every year and mentor many people,” -Myles ON UNEMPLOYMENT Myles Munroe strongly discouraged the reliance on Government for jobs, describing it as ‘lazy thinking.’“There is no such thing as unemployment in the world. What you call unemployment is what I call lazy thinking,” he says.“The work of government is not to create jobs, but to create an environment for people to develop their own work,” he asserts. ON GIFTS/TALENTS Munroe discourages employed professionals against relying solely on their jobs for income, urging them to instead create wealth using their unique talents. He also challenges aspiring entrepreneurs to develop and refine their expertise in a talent, idea, service or body of knowledge. When you refine your gift in an area, you become valuable; people seek you out and pay you. ON ENTREPRENEURSHIP Munroe said setting principles is the first step towards achieving success for any budding entrepreneur. “I will never be poor again because I have learnt the principles of business,” he asserts.“I can say without a doubt that what I have accomplished is based on principles passed on to me by my parents. You should never build your life on facts or techniques because these often become obsolete,” he cautions.“For you to survive today, you must accept the reality of partnerships. If someone emerges as my competition today, I am not supposed to kill them, but marry them,” he states.“Do…

Do You Know Your Love Language?

My mentor once told me, “if in your circle of friends you’re the only one who educates or empowers the rest of the group members, and they have nothing to say that builds you… Quit that group!” Well, what are the odds, I have one great one. I was chatting with a precious friend of mine who asked to stay anonymous… She asked me what my Love Languages was? My answer insinuated Swahili (laughs**) just like my other friend mentioned French! Funny enough, I have a book about this topic but never been motivated to read it. Thanks to her, I now understand them, let alone my personal love language much better. Ignorance is no excuse for no giving or receiving Love the right way. In her words, she shared. So there are 5 major Love Languages (basically how you best receive love, also that’s most likely gonna be the way you give love too, given that we give what we have, however, thats not always the case; possibly true 80% of the time though!) 1. Gifts (when you receive a gift from anyone, even if its just a lollipop for instance, you’ll b ecstatic! To u, that gesture means they put so much thought into whatever gift it is. It means the world to you! Usually, for you to show that u really care about somebody, your way of showing it will most likely be through getting them a gift bcoz gifts hold a special meaning to you) 2. Acts of Service (doing something for somebody like cleaning their room, running errands on their behalf, etc…) 3. Quality Time (you prefer to spend time with somebody, sometimes even if you arent necessarily talking, their presence is enough!), your way of showing you care and appreciate a friend is through…

Why Everybody Should Fast At Least Four Times A Year basing on Health and Spirituality!

The first thing that pops in people’s heads when they hear the word, “FAST” is denial of ‘FOOD’ & ‘PRAYER’. Well, they are wrong and yet at the same time partly right. I would like to think fasting is simply, “Disciplining of the body subjecting it to your control against all that has controlled it.” Ironically speaking, fasting is the art of denying your body and self things that are pleasing to it or you. For example, food, drugs (ps. Alcohol is a drug too.), movies, friendships, fan and many more pleasurable things in our lives. We all have things we crave to do or have, in turn… the urge to have them creates a patten of receiving, having, using…. the cycle goes on. I call it habit. Habits are controling, some are good, others are bad. Sadly, the bad ones always tend to be huge downsides in our lives. Hence leaving us vulnerable and most likely out of control. If we don’t check our habits, desires and way of life, we put our lives in a danger of having an addiction. We never want our lives to depend on a particular  substance, thing or activity. We want to be free!! We want to be in control. And thats why fasting is important! With reference to my personal life, am a great personality and pleasurable person to be around. However, I was so used to the idea of being taken as a good person that I completely forgot to watch out for those cropping and growing interests in particular substances like food and sugars, things such as electronics, technology, money… and activities such as romance, sex, friendship & relationship making and so much more. Not to say that this things are bad, however… the love of such things blinds you to their…

I Personally Think People Need to Mind Their Own Business Unless Invited!

The last couple of months have been hard I must admit, having to deal with a new year filled with old staff splashed right back at you in the presence. Sometimes I feel, writing is the only place I feel I can fight again. I have a tough life and I have come to terms with it. Dealing with heart breaks, great debts, broken family, failing career, failing ambitions, held-up finances and above all broken relationships. A wise man once said, “Men fall because of Brocken focus!” but I chose to pick-up on the other side of the coin, “All men fall, but the great ones get back on their fit.” No matter how much hell fire am going or have gone through, I today want to still think I am a great man, powerful, brilliant, talented and above all… principled. Been sick and tired of people telling me the wrongs I have done. Judging my every step of the way. Its funny how many of them think they got me all figured out. Oh well, I feel sad for their little lives. Because, the thing is… they are just too afraid of taking bold steps and making a difference. I bet if they were in my shoes, they would not take 3 steadfast steps. We all have such in our lives, “mostly our ex’s!!”, competitors, friends! “Oh yes, Friends!!!” Funny how those you bring close choose to study you enough only to bring you down. Guess what, I dodged the bullet. As mean it may seem, I slum the door all over their faces. If you one of them… am glad you are reading this. Someone once told me, “Put your heart in all you do. Be real!!”. This is me being real. Never carry forward to your present…

The Confusing Dilemma of Failure & Success, My Prison Of Misunderstanding. #BreakFree

Too much happening around that I feel am going crazy. Finishing pending projects and tasked to start new ones. With all the unwanted habits at their fullest peek, yet it’s at this time around where I am meant to least expect them. The pressure is so top to the bream that I no longer realize the great successes I have made in my career, personality, business and family life. I totally understand now how Peter felt when he was drowning yet walking towards Jesus at the same time. It seems the confusing dilemma of failure & success, have turned into my prison of misunderstanding. One can not believe how you can have two jobs, great pay, a rapidly growing business, losts of friends and partial masters scholarship in an international university but still fail to be fulfilled. My friends have graded it (my life) as top success, some have said am super blessed. But deep down, a voice is shouting sounds of disapproval & disagreement just because I did not reach my set goals. Well, just as open as this article is today, I choose to have my thought as well… “I frankly don’t give a damn what goals I have not achieved!!” I personally have achieved a lot with the most little luck I could ever have of late.” ( **may be if I tell it to my self, I may feel better** )  I have made just about the biggest mistakes in life a few weeks ago, and the most scaring thing is that I don’t feel bad at all, its like I just turned into a villain (this creeps me out) ***am I turning into a horrible mean person due to the rough paths I have been taking lately*** Why don’t I care anymore like I used to? Why…

5 Things that May Make a Girl Act Desperate

Have you been out and met one of those hot girls who you didn’t expect to fall for you but all of a sudden she’s all over you? Or let’s say, she is a new employee at the work place and maybe on her recruitment, the boss told you to supervise her and within a few days she’s asking for dates or she signals willingness if a chance was given. At times this may seem interesting that you now finally have people falling for you without doing much work or you can get confused – all that happens will mainly depend on your experience. Babes at times can use ‘wanting’ you so as to have emotionless sex with you and with hidden agenda. As grandparents normally say; when something looks too good to be true then it probably is. So you have to use both your gut and full conscience to judge whether the path you are taking is really worth it. A desperate woman is a real issue. It goes against female programming. Below are five reasons why she’s acting desperate. 1. Biological clock When the alarm begins ringing, there’s nothing she can do to stop it. It’s often too late. While the Feminism philosophy may try so hard to empower the career woman, science will always show her that at a certain age; she won’t be able to have children. This leads to women doing anything they can to become pregnant when the wall finally hits. This normally tends to explode when the realization registers that she is close to losing the gift of a healthy child. That is normally anything after 27. Beyond this age – the zone is dangerous. If your instincts tell you she is above that age, don’t accept any convincing statement from her. If…

What you need to know about HIV/AIDs today! #WorldAIDSDAY

Recognizing World AID’s Day to me is a refreshment of a day-to-day struggle against HIV/AIDS’s as we mitigate it’s prevalence and effects. We, ‘if not all,’ are affected by this challenge not forgetting those who are actually living with the problem it’s self. Uganda has once been a model country in fighting HIV/AIDs in Africa, however we can not fail to recognize the falling down of this record. As we speak now, about 76 people die of HIV/AIDS per day, 227 people get infected per day of which 570 weekly infection are young women. Currently, the HIV/prevalence-rate stands at 7.3%.  Looking out of Uganda, its important to also note that HIV/AIDS is a global problem not just in Uganda. In the UK there are 104,000 people living with HIV/AIDS and 6000 diagnosed each year. Majority of the affected however are men, who contracted the disease in the following percentages; 60% from having sex Men to Men (Homosexuality) 40%  from having sex Men to Women, 1% from sharing sharp instruments such as Needles and 2% get infected at birth. On a personal level, I have lost loved ones to HIV/AIDS due to some of the problems probably shared above and others due to ignorance of what HIV/AIDs actually is… Hence on this day, I choose to shade more light on facts About HIV/AIDS. HIV/AIDS is full is know as the Human immunodeficiency virus infection and acquired immune deficiency syndrome (HIV/AIDS) is a spectrum of conditions caused by infection with the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). Following initial infection, a person may not notice any symptoms or may experience a brief period of influenza-like illness. Typically, this is followed by a prolonged period with no symptoms. As the infection progresses, it interferes more with the immune system, increasing the risk of common infections…

“Learning Is An Endless Process That Can Never Be Institutionalized”

“I No Longer Dispute The Fact that says, “Experience Is The Best Teacher.” it feels so great actually sharing with you! For the past three years right after my undergrad, I could not help my self but think of how I actually needed to do a Postgraduate Masters. In fact, I enrolled for one at my very undergrad university. But, I did not find what I wanted so I quit. All I wanted is skills that will guide my career path and purpose in life and school surely could not offer me that! I never believed in the common saying, “Experience is the best teacher…” until I painfully experienced it. I like terming it as a Life class. “Every single minute that passes has taught me that learning is an endless process that can never be institutionalized or paid for by cash alone but through many other ways.”  Here are some of the processes I went through in my bid to learn. Observation: Every thing you see has a meaning. There is that confusing theory I over heard one of my friends talk about, the abstract reality.” According to this theory, they question everything you see. What if what is see is not really what is present? What if what you do not see is actually there? Well, as insignificant as it sounds, this theory has taught me how to critically observe and try to explain, read or study what I see. In tern, I have come to learn a lot without even touching a thing. Through observation alone, I have learnt to cook really great food. Not to brag, but my food is really awesome.  Self Study-Reading And Tutorials: So after quitting my studies, i could not afford to pay for tuition for any short courses simply. As a result,…

Apply for Scholarships for Master’s and PhD (Fully Funded). Deadline: 19/11/16

Please apply… & don’t forget to share the opportunity 1. Australia Award Scholarship (http://australiaawardsindo.or.id) 2. LPDP Scholarsh hip (http://www.beasiswalpdp.org/index.html) 3. DIKTI Scholarship a. Dalam Negeri (http://www.beasiswa.dikti.go.id/dn/)b. Luar Negeri (http://beasiswa.dikti.go.id/ln/) 4. Turkey Government Scholarship (http://www.turkiyeburslari.gov.tr/index.php/en) 5. General Cultural Scholarship India (http://www.iccrindia.net/gereralscheme.html) 6. USA Government Scholarship a. (http://www.aminef.or.id/index.php)b. (http://www.iief.or.id) 7. Netherland Government Scholarship (http://www.nesoindonesia.or.id/beasiswa) 8. Korean Government Scholarship (http://www.niied.go.kr/eng/contents.do…) 9. Belgium Government Scholarship (http://www.vliruos.be/4273.aspx) 10. Israel … … xxx 11. Sciences Po France (http://formation.sciences-po.fr/…/the-emile-boutmy-scholars…) 12. Utrecht University Netherland (http://www.uu.nl/…/grantsandscholarships/Pages/utrechtexcel…) 13. Prasetya Mulya Business School Indonesia (http://www.pmbs.ac.id/s2/scholarship.php?lang=ENG) 14. Brunei Darussalam Government Scholarship (http://www.mofat.gov.bn/index.php/announcement) 15. Monbugakusho Scholarship Japan (http://www.id.emb-japan.go.jp/sch.html) 16. Paramadina University Master Fellowship Indonesia (https://gradschool.paramadina.ac.id/…/paramadina-medco-fell…) 17. PPM School of Management Indonesia (http://ppm-manajemen.ac.id/beasiswa-penuh-s2-mm-reguler/) 18. University of Twente Netherland (http://www.utwente.nl/internationa…/scholarshipsandgrants/…/) 19. Sweden Government Scholarship (http://www.studyinsweden.se/Scholarships/) 20. Chinese Government Scholarship (http://www.csc.edu.cn/laihua/scholarshipdetailen.aspx…) 21. Taiwan Government Scholarship (http://www.studyintaiwan.org/taiwan_scholarships.html) 22. United Kingdom Government SCholarship (http://www.chevening.org/indonesia/) 23. Panasonic Scholarship Japan (http://panasonic.net/citizensh…/scholarships/…/requirements/) 24. Ancora Foundation Scholarship (http://ancorafoundation.com) 25. Asian Public Intellectuals Fellowship Japan (http://www.api-fellowships.org/body/) 26. AUN/SEED-Net Scholarship (http://www.seed-net.org/index.php) 27. Art Asia Major Scholarship Korea National University of Arts (http://eng.karts.ac.kr:81/karts/board/list.jsp…) 28. Ritsumeikan Asia Pacific University Japan (http://www.apu.ac.jp/home/life/index.php?content_id=30) 29. Seoul National University Korea (http://en.snu.ac.kr/…/gradu…/scholarships/before-application) 30. DIKTIS Overseas Scholarship (http://www.pendis.kemenag.go.id/beasiswaln/) 31. Honjo International Scholarship Foundation Japan (http://hisf.or.jp/english/sch-f/) 32. IDB Merit Scholarship Programme for High Technology (http://www.isdb.org/irj/portal/anonymous…) 33. International HIV & Drug Use Fellowship USA (http://www.iasociety.org/fellowship.aspx) 34. Nitori International Scholarship Foundation Japan (http://www.nitori-shougakuzaidan.com/en/) 35. School of Government and Public Policy Indonesia (http://sgpp.ac.id/pages/financial-conditions) 36. Inpex Scholarship Foundation Japan 37. Asia University Taiwan (http://ciae.asia.edu.tw/AdmissionsScholarship.html) 38. Macquaire University Australia (http://www.mq.edu.au/…/macquarie_university_international_…/ . Please apply… & don’t forget to share the opportunity

Are You With The Right Partner?

During a seminar,… During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?” The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author. Here’s the answer. Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love. People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. The key to succeeding…

Apply Now! 10 Tips to Get to the Interview! Mandela Washington

10 Tips to Get to the Interview! Mandela Washington Fellowship!! Ideas from an alumnus who got there 3 times. In truth, it’s pretty competitive. The interest in the program as you are aware is huge. There are many young Africans with highly impressive resume (just like you) that are putting in applications. Last year alone, nearly 50,000 applied for the 1,000 slots. I got to the interview (semifinal) stage three consecutive times but it was only at the third attempt that I was considered. But all that shouldn’t unnerve you, at all. I am here to help you get selected. Haven both failed and succeeded in the applications process, I guess I now have a pretty good idea on what it takes to get in. First, let’s focus on getting that heartwarming email inviting you for the interview. To that end, the following ideas worked for me and I trust they will help you too. 1. Start the application on time. There are many questions to be answered and from my experience, especially on the essay sessions, your first answer may not be your last. So, it’s important to start writing early enough so that you will have ample time to review or revise as the need arises. 2. Be mindful of your writing. While you don’t need to be an English major to do well in the application, it’s important to make sure that you avoid silly spelling errors and grammatical mistakes. Those will quickly turn off your assessors and hurt your chances of advancing to the next stage. To overcome this, get someone (obviously someone that is good in English) to read your write ups before final submission. 3. Choose your words carefully. I think that one of the skills tested in the application process is your ability to tell…

An Open Letter To The Friends I Lost Along The Way

To all my old friends, There are days it strikes me as so strange that I don’t talk to you anymore. There are moments when something reminds me of you and I want to let you know, but so much time has passed that contacting you would be weird. Look at how far we’ve come since those younger carefree days. The real question is, how did we end up here? How did we go from being best friends to practically strangers? Back when we were friends, I never dreamed there would come a time you would not be in my life. I never meant to lose you, but it just kind of happened. Choices were made that led us both in different directions and now you’re gone. Some of these choices may have been conscious decisions to let go of our friendship and others may have led to our unintentional drifting apart. Some already had all the signs of separation showing before high school ended and some occurred unexpectedly as we progressed through college. Now your life is foreign to me. I no longer know what’s going on in it, and I wish things were different. But life happened. We drifted apart without really realizing, and now the gap may be just too big to bridge. Given the chance, I’d love to have you back in my life; I miss being around you. Unfortunately, we’re both so busy and living such different lives, that I don’t know if this is a reality anymore. I want you to know that I am still here for you. It does not matter how much time and distance is between us or how much further apart we may drift, I will always be here for you. If you need me, I’m never more than…

Five types of people to avoid in life

In life, we need the right people around us; regardless of the circumstances to enable us achieve our goals. It is said nature and nurture make a person. Chances are that we will meet a great deal of people along the way. These are individuals who will shape our tastes, perceptions and even beliefs. Here are the five groups of people you need to limit or avoid at all expense if you are to succeed. The complainer These are individuals whose primary focus is to complain in virtually all circumstances. There are no jobs; even the few which are available are already taken. They will take every opportunity to blame someone else and never appreciate anything that is good. You will always see the silver lining in everything and become settled in your comfort zone if you stay long enough around these people. You will wallow in self-pity, justified that there is nothing you can do about your situation. 2. The negative criticizers The sole aim of this clique of people is to ware down anything they perceive as not being good. They will brag on how so and so can do it better- never mind that they themselves are non-starters. Their criticism is usually some kind of sabotage. They will encourage you to just quit what you are doing and never suggest any alternatives. They enjoy the status quo as long as everyone else remains in their level or lower. Around them, you will enjoy their company just as long as you do not change. 3. Dream killers When you think that sky is the limit, they will convince you that you are fantasizing over impossibilities. They usually have their own lists of case studies of people who have tried what you are confident you will succeed in and failed.…

34 Godly Principles of Starting Your Journey to a Successful Wealth Responsible Wellbeing #Business

If not every, then it’s most young people’s dream to become rich! “there, I said it… people fear doing that today.” We have created all sorts of moral citations especially as God fearing people, of how we need to suffer, how being wealthy is some sort of sin in away and where we cant explain it we say it’s blessing. “Hahaha…oh how we suffer in ignorance.” Not just you but me too here, I once lived in that kind of confusion. Well, since Christ came to Give us life, so we may live in abundance, I took it upon my self to Ask for guidance, seek wisdom and understand what principles can get me started. Now there are other things you have to consider, but for now I came across these principles and they have jump-started me off to my journey and I think it’s only wise for me to share them with you as well. 1) Do you know the first thing about the sky’s constellations & how they affect things on earth? ~Job 38:33 2) There is no new knowledge on Earth. Everything comes from the Bible. 3) If a murderer applies the law of sowing and reaping, it will work for him/her. 4) In terms of natural laws, the principal law is the law of gravity. 5) To overcome the law of gravity, the law of aerodynamics is put in motion. 6) You need money to advance the gospel. Our major business is the great commission. 7) Ephesians 4: 28. The purpose of work isn’t to make you rich 8) A worker gives. A business owner sows. There is a very big difference. 9) Man’s original habitat is Paradise. Poverty is a disease that can’t be cured by work. 10) Many in the body of Christ are…

Five Actual Practical Principles to Getting Your Life Promotion with God’s Full Support!

A wise man once said, “Men choose their habits, and their habits decide their future.” As simple as this statement sounds, well I guarantee you it contains the truth just as the one does; “Humble your self and you will be lifted.” Now this is a power principle that anyone to wants responsible success has to engrave on his or her hearts. Am sure by now you must know victories don’t come by chance… it takes a lot of had work and attention to details most ignored. My dream has always been aligned to leadership of the highest level and I can say boldly that I am making progress. From when I was a child, I was leader from all levels to where I am now at age of 25yrs; I can now stand and say, “I have made it.” But I still got more to add on as years pass by, pushing limits every-time at all costs… this is because; I keep down to earth. I know my mission, ‘I attain more power to do more good to people and work towards my goals.” However, it hasn’t been all a clean and straight road, I have made major mistakes in my life, which I like calling landmines. Hence, the purpose of this blog is to share with you 5 principles that will help you or guide you towards achieving true success and possibly avoid stepping in the same landmines I did:   1-Understand Your Mission, Not Position. Let your focus not be on loose site of the mission but rather discovering it. Position means nothing if you don’t understand your mission, but if you understand your mission; your position will not be changed to success. The first time I failed an election was when I planed to win the…

When we fall Short, We bury what we can’t fix.

All of you on Instagram know those Before & after pictures, for the ladies one picture before a beauty make over and another after… they really show a huge distinction. Well life is a little similar to that, today I want to talk about our to sides and versions of persons living within us, the weak and the strong but still in the same body.   I keep telling my self, “We are here, the strong & the weak (ME) living in the same body!” Am not an upright man pay say that is living up to society fittings. I am living in the twilight zone between two names, Emmanuel, which means, “God with us.” and Wabwire, which means, “Born at night.” Religion will tell you, if you fast enough, you kill the other side, but I keep telling my self, “We are still here! Emmanuel and Wabwire” And some times we get into a fight living in the same body, Sometimes Wabwire wants to quit and Emmanuel wants to stay. Sometimes Emmanuel wants to live holy and Wabwire wants to go to a strip-club. Emmanuel wants to read the bible, and Wabwire wants to watch porn and we are both living in the same body. Your are supposed to be a Christian, Emmanuel is but I still have to live with Wabwire. Sometimes I even wonder why God still reaches out and calls me, but all I know is, that’s his nature! He wants to use the weak, make them strong and pride in them.   Growing up was amazing especially when it meant living with a great Dad as mine even when I had never known my biological mom. In my late teens he was there to take me through the hard parts of life and my God…

22 Questions To Ask Before Saying “I Do”

The Bible says that, “a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22. But we must understand that the finding is a process and it is a serious task. This process involves seeking and elimination. It takes time and energy. Ignorance of what this process involves is what makes many singles sad and discouraged or rush into mis-matched marriages. The truth is, finding just any type of life partner is easy; you can pick anyone off the street and go to the altar with her/him. But the heart-breaks and rejections from failed relationships are not easy at all. If you must find that one who would do you good, that one who is tailor-made by God to fit you, then you must invest time, even if it means waiting for some time. After all, the Bible says, “a virtuous woman, who can find?” Proverbs 31:10. This indicates that finding a good person, whether a man or woman does not come easy – you have to search diligently for them. Experiencing a long delay before marriage is not a bed of roses, neither is it easy to keep waiting when all your peers, friends and younger siblings are all getting married. I sincerely do sympathize with my fellow peers going through all of this, but it is better to suffer some pains now than be sorry in marriage. You need to be patient and never hurry. Based on my observations and experience in my parents’ marriage alongside others, I can safely say that ten broken relationships are far better than one divorce. You’ve got to take time and get it right so that you will not suffer later. There are only two kinds of pain: the pain of regret and the pain…